"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Difficulty moveing one (nexting)

Bryce556

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I have a great trouble with moveing on to the next girl, This girl I have liked for a while clearly dosent like me. She is so amazing. I am haveing trouble moveing on. For one I can't let go and stop likeing her, and secondly when I look for another girl there is just no one that matches up to her. She just like the perfect girl for me. See my problem. any suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Berlex

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Bryce556 said:
I have a great trouble with moveing on to the next girl, This girl I have liked for a while clearly dosent like me. She is so amazing. I am haveing trouble moveing on. For one I can't let go and stop likeing her, and secondly when I look for another girl there is just no one that matches up to her. She just like the perfect girl for me. See my problem. any suggestions?
Here's a suggestion: learn how to drop the "e" when adding "ing."

-the Grammar Nazi
 

DJ1234

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Sounds like you have the oneitis for her....I know it is difficult because I had a oneitis for a girl but try to move on by moving your interest into other girls and stop all contact with her if you've have any...
just use the rule of that the more you like her the more she won't like you and she clearly doesn't like you so it sounds like you don't have a chance if you've haven't made your intentions with her known...
 

Berlex

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DJ1234 said:
Sounds like you have the oneitis for her....I know it is difficult because I had a oneitis for a girl but try to move on by moving your interest into other girls and stop all contact with her if you've have any...
just use the rule of that the more you like her the more she won't like you and she clearly doesn't like you so it sounds like you don't have a chance if you've haven't made your intentions with her known...
what he said :up:

you're showing way too much interest...flirt with other girls when she's around, laugh, have a good time with them
 

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Bryce556 said:
I have a great trouble with moveing on to the next girl, This girl I have liked for a while clearly dosent like me. She is so amazing. I am haveing trouble moveing on. For one I can't let go and stop likeing her, and secondly when I look for another girl there is just no one that matches up to her. She just like the perfect girl for me. See my problem. any suggestions?
Its probably going to be like that with every girl you've been emotionally tied to. I was in your exact same situation with my last girlfriend.

I would feel the same way that she was the perfect one and no other girl would compare to her. Yeah its true when your emotions get in the way you act like a wuss.

How to get over her? Pretty tough if you ask me, it took me a whole month to get over my last gf but now I wouldn't even discuss about her. Time is a key factor, time will heal this open woond :p

AND...best and faster method is talking to other girls. No of course you wont feel the same way with them until you get emotionally connected with them , but flirting with as many girls as possible will help your male ego and forget about that ***** fast.

Also what helped me forget about her was see only her bad parts. Right now all you see is good things on her and its making it harder for you. believe me when i say NOBODY is perfect and all girls have flaws. Everytime you think about her think only about her flaws instead of the things you like about her.

Good luck I now its a tough one but you will get over her with time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Close to my last problem... I had SUCH a hard time moving on, because I saw her every day, I was in her class, there was nothing I could do about it. I found myself forgetting her on the weekend,

Sunday - "ha I don't need her what was I thinking?!"
Monday - *walks into class* "Wow she's amazing..."

I had a oneitis, which lasted a whole YEAR because of that. Damn near torture.
Yes I saw other girls, yes I was still going with other girls, but even then she was stuck in my mind. Just pray your not in a class with a girl you think is absolutely amazing. If it all goes wrong you'll find yourself in a pit. If they are just around school, you wont have to make so much contact with them and can move on much more easily.
 
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