"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crazy Asian

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i've noticed that i've really changed over the last year or so. but a problem that i noticed is that the the people i knew before (swim team, elementry buddies) i can't act like the new me. i don't know why, but i would just feel really awkward (sp?) if i acted like a new person in front of them.

I really noticed that i changed when about 2-3 weeks ago, my mom signed me up for this ACT prep class with about 10 people in it. I don't know how, but i was like the center of that room. i did everything right and actually felt like i was the alpha male in the class. 2 chicks who were 7 ish (hottest ones there) were actually into me. i couldn't believe it. i didn't have to try, and all i did was be loud acted like my self and used some of the tips on this forum.

I think next year, i'll find a new group of friends in a new area of the school to start over with, cause last year school was like sh1t for me.

anyway, the ACT class is going to end soon and i haven't talked to the 2 girls out side of class, so u think i should get their number, myspace address, or just ask them to do something right there on the last day (tomorrow)?

ty everyone
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Say "give me your number and I may call you later so we can chill." Something like that would be better then getting say a myspace acount. And try both girls, you might as well, dont live with regrets.
 

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yeah, i'll deff try both girls. but it sucks that i'm the only junior in the class, and everyone else is a senior.
 

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i'm 15 and they're 16 - 17
and the 2 year age difference might automatically put me in the no-****ing zone
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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