"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Different Surroundings

Crazy Asian

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i've noticed that i've really changed over the last year or so. but a problem that i noticed is that the the people i knew before (swim team, elementry buddies) i can't act like the new me. i don't know why, but i would just feel really awkward (sp?) if i acted like a new person in front of them.

I really noticed that i changed when about 2-3 weeks ago, my mom signed me up for this ACT prep class with about 10 people in it. I don't know how, but i was like the center of that room. i did everything right and actually felt like i was the alpha male in the class. 2 chicks who were 7 ish (hottest ones there) were actually into me. i couldn't believe it. i didn't have to try, and all i did was be loud acted like my self and used some of the tips on this forum.

I think next year, i'll find a new group of friends in a new area of the school to start over with, cause last year school was like sh1t for me.

anyway, the ACT class is going to end soon and i haven't talked to the 2 girls out side of class, so u think i should get their number, myspace address, or just ask them to do something right there on the last day (tomorrow)?

ty everyone
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Say "give me your number and I may call you later so we can chill." Something like that would be better then getting say a myspace acount. And try both girls, you might as well, dont live with regrets.
 

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yeah, i'll deff try both girls. but it sucks that i'm the only junior in the class, and everyone else is a senior.
 

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i'm 15 and they're 16 - 17
and the 2 year age difference might automatically put me in the no-****ing zone
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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