Difference Between Friendliness and Flirtiness

[evesman]

I have a really hard time distinguishing the two. When girls you've never met or seen before, suddenly look you right in the eye and give you a big smile, how can I tell if she is just being polite and friendly, vs. being horny for you?

I can tell if it happens repeatedly, but not if it's the first time. Advice?

 

[worship]

I don't think its usually possible to tell. I guess it's best to always ASSUME she's attracted - make some moves and see how she reacts.

 

[Caveman]

Worship is right. It's best to always assume she is attracted.

Other than that, no doubt you can tell if the smile is genuine. A waitress for example has a professional smile. It's been taught to her by her boss. She is dependand on customers tips so she'll do her best to be friendly and polite to all customers. Or at least they should be..

There will be more than friendlyness if she smiles at you for just an instance more. Might be less than a tenth of a second. Key is you would have to feel it.
This doesn't mean a girl that gives you a quick smile and then almost embarrassedly looks away is not interested. She might even have a major crush on you.

Either way, if a girl smiles, she is open. Go for it.

 

[Vader]

I have a hard time with this one too. Nice Guy wouldn't want to bother the poor working girl. I think the more aggresive out look should be smile, hi's, and stuff is game on. Remember the poor girl could be very nerious too.

Think of it this way, what is too far. Going in every day after she has said no and asking her out? Following her home? :flowers:

Take the chance, customers ask her out every day.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

I don't think its usually possible to tell. I guess it's best to always ASSUME she's attracted - make some moves and see how she reacts.

Exactly, assume attraction and go for it, you don't need permission to see if she's interested or not, go bust a move.

 

[evesman]

Yeah, these are girls who are not working as waitresses or anything. Just walking down the street, and some are employees at my company or at nearby companies.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

If you don't know them, they're saying "Hey, approach me."
If you've known them awhile, it means "Hey, talk to me."

The ones you don't know are most likely not horny, however flirtatious and giving you the green light to approach.

Man if they're good looking, go ahead. People generally don't smile at strangers and ask if they can be friends.

 

[evesman]

If they're being friendly, I'll be friendly back! What a novel idea! I'm so shy...

 

[coffin]

dude lol i have the same problem in tellin if they are friendly or want to be aproached. i work at a rite aid as a cashier and im guessin they are bein nice but i see alot of girls lookin at me and smiling or lookin at me period. im hoping that they think im good lookin cuz the alternative is they think im mentally challenged... lol

 

[evesman]

I found this:

Indicators of Interest (IOIs) could be verbal or non-verbal

Example non-verbal IOIs are:

* In a pub, a stranger chick locks EC with you
* In public environments (everyday places), a stranger chick locks EC with you, keeps looking, smiles
* Lots of EC from her, or solid EC
* She has "brightly" eyes looking at you, and "that" interested look
* She starts playing with her hair (looking at you interested), bite lips or lick lips
* She shows you her leg while stretching her ankle
* She touches her breast or necklace.
* She leans towards you
* She makes kino on you/reciprocates kino (also known as reverse-kino?)
* You hold her hand and she squeezes back
* In a party, she keeps on "appearing" close to you or puts herself in a place where it is obvious you can see her (this is also known as an AI, an Approach Invitation)

http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/fswiki.cgi?Indicators_Of_Interest

 

[evesman]

It happened again today at the gym. There was this fine girl with a tan and amazing body. When we go to the gym, there's a line for towels and I was right behind her. After she gets her towel, instead of walking off, she turns around, and just stares into my eyes for several seconds. Almost glaring. Then she walks off. She looked hypnotized, riveted. It almost scared me.

I didn't work up the nerve to follow up. But I think these are good signs nonetheless.