"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Difference between approaching 7's and 8's, and 9's and 10's?

milrenkb

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Somethings been puzzling me latley. My range in terms of the girls I go out with fall into that 7-9 range. However I've noticed that when I use the C&F style on the 7's and 8's they become cold and distant while the 9's seem to just eat it up. On the other hand when I use less C&F on the 7's and 8's and even go about being more open with telegraphing my IOI's I get a much more desireable reatction.

I'd really like someone to elaborate on this before I head out tonight. So with that said.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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vp171s

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what does C&F mean? Cute and Furry by any chance? :crackup:

You will never learn from this board something that works 100% of the time, its an art, everybody has their own strengths and if something is not working for you, don't use it just because 90% of some forum members tell you to do so.
 

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vp171s said:
You will never learn from this board something that works 100% of the time, its an art, everybody has their own strengths and if something is not working for you, don't use it just because 90% of some forum members tell you to do so.
I agree with that, but I'm just amazed by how different the response is between the two groups (for lack of a better word).
 

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milrenkb said:
I agree with that, but I'm just amazed by how different the response is between the two groups (for lack of a better word).
Don't question something that works for you. You might ruin the magic by digging through the details. Just be happy you've developed a double approach.
 

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I'm not really cold-approaching yet, but I have incorporated some ****Y & FUNNY into my regular conversations with women.

And yes... it leaves most 6-7's cold. Anything from there up - for me - it works pretty good on.

The 10's, however, seem to be onto it. I think they've seen it all by this point... :(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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milrenkb said:
Somethings been puzzling me latley. My range in terms of the girls I go out with fall into that 7-9 range. However I've noticed that when I use the C&F style on the 7's and 8's they become cold and distant while the 9's seem to just eat it up. On the other hand when I use less C&F on the 7's and 8's and even go about being more open with telegraphing my IOI's I get a much more desireable reatction.

I'd really like someone to elaborate on this before I head out tonight. So with that said.....
The less attractive ones naturally have lower self esteem- be more sensitive with them:D
 
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It's nothing man, mostly it's the vibe you give off.

You get the chicks because of your alpha male vibe, you've already got her, why use ****y funny? Hell you've knocked Mike Tyson out, he's done, go get your belt, why still stand there in a boxing position...he's done.

These little don juan techniques are not what gets women. Its your behavior. The 9's that laughed (and what's the difference bet a 7-9 but your own opinion, haha, I might think the 7-8 was your 9, lol), the 9's that laughed probably did so out of "okay?" Not like it was really funny or anything. Stop using these techniques, you don't need them.
Take the training wheels off your bike now you know how to ride.
 

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the 9's that laughed probably did so out of "okay?" Not like it was really funny or anything.....???

if your getting that reaction then it wasnt funny
 

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milrenkb said:
Somethings been puzzling me latley. My range in terms of the girls I go out with fall into that 7-9 range. However I've noticed that when I use the C&F style on the 7's and 8's they become cold and distant while the 9's seem to just eat it up. On the other hand when I use less C&F on the 7's and 8's and even go about being more open with telegraphing my IOI's I get a much more desireable reatction.

I'd really like someone to elaborate on this before I head out tonight. So with that said.....
The majority of hot babe 9's+ have high self esteem and can afford a knock or two

The majority below 9 have lower self esteem and its like kicking them when there down

I posted something about this to do with negs a few weeks a go
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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milrenkb

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Doggystyle said:
I posted something about this to do with negs a few weeks a go
I'd like to follow up on that. Can you provide a link?
 
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