"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Did your parents ever...

Did your parents ever give you "advice"?

  • Yes

    Votes: 2 12.5%
  • No

    Votes: 14 87.5%

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Quiksilver

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Reading that post about parents, it hit me hard...

I want to know if there's some sort of a relation between communication with parents and social success. There might be a reason for why some people here "get it" and some take much longer to fully understand some things.

Question: Did your parents ever give you the "talk" or give you social advice when you were in your teens?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CactusMcDougal

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I was never drawn into the discussion on sexuality. (In fact, I remained ignorant of sex until I was about 14.) My mother, however, did fill my mind with volumes of rants and monologues on males' past evils against females, claiming that all of evolutional theory regarding gender differences was fabricated by males to rationalize said evils. She also, in essence, trained me to become a slave to females, going so far as to tell me that women are better than men. (And before anyone paints a picture of my mother as the uneducated spawn of Satan, she is a very educated woman. She hold two Master's degrees at University of Texas at Austin. And she is not "ugly" either, just average by middle-age standards.) In a sense, my mother castrated me at birth; she raised me to be the Eternal Nice Guy.
 

Quiksilver

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Originally posted by Demon
No. They primarily imparted their wisdom regarding achieving success in life.
Success in what respect?
 

KillaCam

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"Always wear a rubber" - KillaCam's Mom

Simplicity is wonderful.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ValleyDJing

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CactusMcDougal said:
I was never drawn into the discussion on sexuality. (In fact, I remained ignorant of sex until I was about 14.) My mother, however, did fill my mind with volumes of rants and monologues on males' past evils against females, claiming that all of evolutional theory regarding gender differences was fabricated by males to rationalize said evils. She also, in essence, trained me to become a slave to females, going so far as to tell me that women are better than men. (And before anyone paints a picture of my mother as the uneducated spawn of Satan, she is a very educated woman. She hold two Master's degrees at University of Texas at Austin. And she is not "ugly" either, just average by middle-age standards.) In a sense, my mother castrated me at birth; she raised me to be the Eternal Nice Guy.
Sounds like your mom's been watching too many evening sitcoms. That or watching commercials and the stereotypical dumb/inferior, male/white person.
 

oakraiderz2

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I didnt learn sh*t. I was shy throughout school. Within the past two years ive broken out of my shell but yea, it would have been nice to have enjoyed middle and high school more.
 
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