"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did your parents ever...

Did your parents ever give you "advice"?

  • Yes

    Votes: 2 12.5%
  • No

    Votes: 14 87.5%

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Quiksilver

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Reading that post about parents, it hit me hard...

I want to know if there's some sort of a relation between communication with parents and social success. There might be a reason for why some people here "get it" and some take much longer to fully understand some things.

Question: Did your parents ever give you the "talk" or give you social advice when you were in your teens?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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CactusMcDougal

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I was never drawn into the discussion on sexuality. (In fact, I remained ignorant of sex until I was about 14.) My mother, however, did fill my mind with volumes of rants and monologues on males' past evils against females, claiming that all of evolutional theory regarding gender differences was fabricated by males to rationalize said evils. She also, in essence, trained me to become a slave to females, going so far as to tell me that women are better than men. (And before anyone paints a picture of my mother as the uneducated spawn of Satan, she is a very educated woman. She hold two Master's degrees at University of Texas at Austin. And she is not "ugly" either, just average by middle-age standards.) In a sense, my mother castrated me at birth; she raised me to be the Eternal Nice Guy.
 

Quiksilver

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Originally posted by Demon
No. They primarily imparted their wisdom regarding achieving success in life.
Success in what respect?
 

KillaCam

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"Always wear a rubber" - KillaCam's Mom

Simplicity is wonderful.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ValleyDJing

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CactusMcDougal said:
I was never drawn into the discussion on sexuality. (In fact, I remained ignorant of sex until I was about 14.) My mother, however, did fill my mind with volumes of rants and monologues on males' past evils against females, claiming that all of evolutional theory regarding gender differences was fabricated by males to rationalize said evils. She also, in essence, trained me to become a slave to females, going so far as to tell me that women are better than men. (And before anyone paints a picture of my mother as the uneducated spawn of Satan, she is a very educated woman. She hold two Master's degrees at University of Texas at Austin. And she is not "ugly" either, just average by middle-age standards.) In a sense, my mother castrated me at birth; she raised me to be the Eternal Nice Guy.
Sounds like your mom's been watching too many evening sitcoms. That or watching commercials and the stereotypical dumb/inferior, male/white person.
 

oakraiderz2

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I didnt learn sh*t. I was shy throughout school. Within the past two years ive broken out of my shell but yea, it would have been nice to have enjoyed middle and high school more.
 
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