"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Did your parents ever...

Did your parents ever give you "advice"?

  • Yes

    Votes: 2 12.5%
  • No

    Votes: 14 87.5%

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Quiksilver

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Reading that post about parents, it hit me hard...

I want to know if there's some sort of a relation between communication with parents and social success. There might be a reason for why some people here "get it" and some take much longer to fully understand some things.

Question: Did your parents ever give you the "talk" or give you social advice when you were in your teens?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CactusMcDougal

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I was never drawn into the discussion on sexuality. (In fact, I remained ignorant of sex until I was about 14.) My mother, however, did fill my mind with volumes of rants and monologues on males' past evils against females, claiming that all of evolutional theory regarding gender differences was fabricated by males to rationalize said evils. She also, in essence, trained me to become a slave to females, going so far as to tell me that women are better than men. (And before anyone paints a picture of my mother as the uneducated spawn of Satan, she is a very educated woman. She hold two Master's degrees at University of Texas at Austin. And she is not "ugly" either, just average by middle-age standards.) In a sense, my mother castrated me at birth; she raised me to be the Eternal Nice Guy.
 

Quiksilver

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Originally posted by Demon
No. They primarily imparted their wisdom regarding achieving success in life.
Success in what respect?
 

KillaCam

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"Always wear a rubber" - KillaCam's Mom

Simplicity is wonderful.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ValleyDJing

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CactusMcDougal said:
I was never drawn into the discussion on sexuality. (In fact, I remained ignorant of sex until I was about 14.) My mother, however, did fill my mind with volumes of rants and monologues on males' past evils against females, claiming that all of evolutional theory regarding gender differences was fabricated by males to rationalize said evils. She also, in essence, trained me to become a slave to females, going so far as to tell me that women are better than men. (And before anyone paints a picture of my mother as the uneducated spawn of Satan, she is a very educated woman. She hold two Master's degrees at University of Texas at Austin. And she is not "ugly" either, just average by middle-age standards.) In a sense, my mother castrated me at birth; she raised me to be the Eternal Nice Guy.
Sounds like your mom's been watching too many evening sitcoms. That or watching commercials and the stereotypical dumb/inferior, male/white person.
 

oakraiderz2

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I didnt learn sh*t. I was shy throughout school. Within the past two years ive broken out of my shell but yea, it would have been nice to have enjoyed middle and high school more.
 
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