"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Did this chick flake?

KingRich

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Quick rundown of the situation....

Picked up a decent looking girl at a club about a month ago, and ended up at her place for the night for a crazy round of sex. I stay the night, and I don't call her as I'm thinking it's a one night stand.

About a month later, I run into her at the same club and she's with a stagette party. So she asks "why haven't you called"? To which I reply, I didn't really think you wanted me to. I actually DID want to call her so I promised I would. I leave for the night. I call her 5 days later and she returns my call the next day and leaves a message. I call back 3 days later, talk for 20mins and set the date and I get off the phone.

The date goes good, and I ended up bringing her back to my pad for another good round of sex and she stays the night.

I call her 3 days later and set up another date. Once again, the night ends up at her place and the usual happens. I then call her 3 days later and we speak for 20 mins. I get off the phone first, and tell her to call me when she gets back from a wedding she was going away for on the weekend. Sunday comes, no call. Tuesday happens to be my b-day, no call.... So I call the Wednesday as I'm getting a bit pissed off at this bird. I leave a message to call back.....still, no call....

WTF is up with this? Is this some sort of test? This bird seemed pretty solid up until this week....she never seemed to want to get off the phone, always accepted my dates and returned my calls up until now.

Although I dig this chick, I am planning on deep sixing this broad if I do not hear back from her in a couple more days.

Any words of wisdom?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I read your post and no where did it indicate that you actually dated this girl continously - you just banged her one night then saw her again the next month. What more do you expect from this?

I can only recommend NEXT.
 

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The first time, it was only sex.

I guess the only dates we went on the next month always ended up in the sack. But we went out earlier in the nights for dinner, drinks etc...
 

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You pick her up at a club and take her to the sack the same night=slut.

Sluts by nature are flakey and unreliable and have no conception of loyalty or obligation.

Or, she could have hooked up with someone else. Who knows.

Certainly not worth agonizing over.
 

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Originally posted by sapphire
You pick her up at a club and take her to the sack the same night=slut.

Sluts by nature are flakey and unreliable and have no conception of loyalty or obligation.

Or, she could have hooked up with someone else. Who knows.

Certainly not worth agonizing over.
Good point....I guess I tried not to look at it that way....She did seem solid for the last couple of weeks before the flake out though....

Lesson learned.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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