"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Did this chick flake?

KingRich

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Quick rundown of the situation....

Picked up a decent looking girl at a club about a month ago, and ended up at her place for the night for a crazy round of sex. I stay the night, and I don't call her as I'm thinking it's a one night stand.

About a month later, I run into her at the same club and she's with a stagette party. So she asks "why haven't you called"? To which I reply, I didn't really think you wanted me to. I actually DID want to call her so I promised I would. I leave for the night. I call her 5 days later and she returns my call the next day and leaves a message. I call back 3 days later, talk for 20mins and set the date and I get off the phone.

The date goes good, and I ended up bringing her back to my pad for another good round of sex and she stays the night.

I call her 3 days later and set up another date. Once again, the night ends up at her place and the usual happens. I then call her 3 days later and we speak for 20 mins. I get off the phone first, and tell her to call me when she gets back from a wedding she was going away for on the weekend. Sunday comes, no call. Tuesday happens to be my b-day, no call.... So I call the Wednesday as I'm getting a bit pissed off at this bird. I leave a message to call back.....still, no call....

WTF is up with this? Is this some sort of test? This bird seemed pretty solid up until this week....she never seemed to want to get off the phone, always accepted my dates and returned my calls up until now.

Although I dig this chick, I am planning on deep sixing this broad if I do not hear back from her in a couple more days.

Any words of wisdom?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I read your post and no where did it indicate that you actually dated this girl continously - you just banged her one night then saw her again the next month. What more do you expect from this?

I can only recommend NEXT.
 

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The first time, it was only sex.

I guess the only dates we went on the next month always ended up in the sack. But we went out earlier in the nights for dinner, drinks etc...
 

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You pick her up at a club and take her to the sack the same night=slut.

Sluts by nature are flakey and unreliable and have no conception of loyalty or obligation.

Or, she could have hooked up with someone else. Who knows.

Certainly not worth agonizing over.
 

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Originally posted by sapphire
You pick her up at a club and take her to the sack the same night=slut.

Sluts by nature are flakey and unreliable and have no conception of loyalty or obligation.

Or, she could have hooked up with someone else. Who knows.

Certainly not worth agonizing over.
Good point....I guess I tried not to look at it that way....She did seem solid for the last couple of weeks before the flake out though....

Lesson learned.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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