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So I texted her asking if she's all done with finals and she replied. I then said "It'd be cool if we hang out sometime before your vacation (she's visiting family in Africa this summer). No response. I think I should have at least waited longer to attempt this. Or would it have not made a difference?
 

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So I texted her asking if she's all done with finals and she replied. I then said "It'd be cool if we hang out sometime before your vacation (she's visiting family in Africa this summer). No response. I think I should have at least waited longer to attempt this. Or would it have not made a difference?
It was over with the "PDA" comment. Just let it go.

In order to get good we need lots and lots of epic failures such as this one, witch wasn't even that bad.

I was invited over to the hotest girl I have ever seen's hotel room and I didn't go cuz she had a bf and I had a gf ... she called me at denny's wondering where I was.

I still punch myself in the face because of that every day. That was the last time a 21yo blonde has ever given me the dtf. Legit hb 10. Somewhere in the back of my mind I said... "no way she would actually f me." Lo and behold ... her friend said I fvcked up the next week, never saw or heard from them again.

Yours was nothing.

There will be worse.

Cheers!
 

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It was over with the "PDA" comment. Just let it go.

In order to get good we need lots and lots of epic failures such as this one, witch wasn't even that bad.

I was invited over to the hotest girl I have ever seen's hotel room and I didn't go cuz she had a bf and I had a gf ... she called me at denny's wondering where I was.

I still punch myself in the face because of that every day. That was the last time a 21yo blonde has ever given me the dtf. Legit hb 10. Somewhere in the back of my mind I said... "no way she would actually f me." Lo and behold ... her friend said I fvcked up the next week, never saw or heard from them again.

Yours was nothing.

There will be worse.

Cheers!
Well at least you had a gf, wtf is my excuse? What I did (or didn't do) was really gay. It scares me. You really think that comment was the deal breaker huh?
 

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Well at least you had a gf, wtf is my excuse? What I did (or didn't do) was really gay. It scares me. You really think that comment was the deal breaker huh?
More like the straw that broke the camels back.. I'm sure there was other stuff, your vibe oozes neediness for some reason I can feel it through my phone.

Your excuse, you lack experience, witch is fine, you are young.

Me on the other hand my head was full deep into PUA at that time, I had no excuse. I'm going to punch myself now.

all good.
 

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More like the straw that broke the camels back.. I'm sure there was other stuff, your vibe oozes neediness for some reason I can feel it through my phone.

Your excuse, you lack experience, witch is fine, you are young.

Me on the other hand my head was full deep into PUA at that time, I had no excuse. I'm going to punch myself now.

all good.
I'm not young, I'm 27. Wouldn't a needy person have gladly accepted the advance in that moment?
 

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I'm not young, I'm 27. Wouldn't a needy person have gladly accepted the advance in that moment?
I'm not going to pinpoint the source of neediness everyone else feels from your post, but It is there, I'm not exactly sure what your question is.

A socially awkward needy person is pretty much random, Does wierd shyt like the PDA comment.

I would kill to be 27. I didn't come into my own till about 34. I was pretty much a nice guy for 33 years.

You are fine, you got plenty of time. I got divorced around your age and had to learn how to socialize.


Hit the club this weekend bro. I know I am. I'm going to tell my gf to meet me there if she wants after work, cuz I'm a pimp like that.

cheers
 

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I'm not going to pinpoint the source of neediness everyone else feels from your post, but It is there, I'm not exactly sure what your question is.

A socially awkward needy person is pretty much random, Does wierd shyt like the PDA comment.

I would kill to be 27. I didn't come into my own till about 34. I was pretty much a nice guy for 33 years.

You are fine, you got plenty of time. I got divorced around your age and had to learn how to socialize.


Hit the club this weekend bro. I know I am. I'm going to tell my gf to meet me there if she wants after work, cuz I'm a pimp like that.

cheers
No I won't be fine. The PDA comment was weird and gay and I can't live with the fact I made it.
 

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No I won't be fine. The PDA comment was weird and gay and I can't live with the fact I made it.
Let it go man. Everyone can agree that it wasn’t the right comment to make at that moment because it didn’t do anything for you. You rejected her.

I don’t think you’re needy. I think you say things that make you weak. I think you need to look at why you’re putting YOURSELF down. And finally I think you have a performance mindset, where instead it should be a growth mindset.
Look at the actions you took that didn’t yield a positive result and instead of beating yourself up about it, remember it, so the next date you go on with a new woman, that won’t happen again because you learned from your mistakes - which everyone makes.
 

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Let it go man. Everyone can agree that it wasn’t the right comment to make at that moment because it didn’t do anything for you. You rejected her.

I don’t think you’re needy. I think you say things that make you weak. I think you need to look at why you’re putting YOURSELF down. And finally I think you have a performance mindset, where instead it should be a growth mindset.
Look at the actions you took that didn’t yield a positive result and instead of beating yourself up about it, remember it, so the next date you go on with a new woman, that won’t happen again because you learned from your mistakes - which everyone makes.
Needy or not, op just needs to realise we all make mistakes and he is better off than most.

I had one chode tell me out loud that he likes one if my F buddies he bought roses for.

OP will not be cluless like him.

She came outside when I called for an uber and showed me porn on her phone. If I wasn't drained from my gf I would have fvcked her just to mess with the chump.

he is like 80% of the guys out there. OP has hope, the guy at perkins does not.
 

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You've posted at least three threads about this girl and your fvck up - that's NEEDY

if you weren't needy you would have listened to the advice you were given in the first thread, ingrained it in your pshyche, and moved forward with your life. Instead you are fixated, anxious and dwelling and that translates to NEEDY

Not to mention, you are stopping yourself from MOVING ON to other chicks by obsessing over this.

I'm getting bigdave vibes

The better play here would have been to no contact her. Wait and see if silence brings her interest level back up and she texts you, and take it from there.

No matter, it's done now. Let that shame go, learn the lesson, and move on
 
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You've posted at least three threads about this girl and your fvck up - that's NEEDY

if you weren't needy you would have listened to the advice you were given in the first thread, ingrained it in your pshyche, and moved forward with your life. Instead you are fixated, anxious and dwelling and that translates to NEEDY

Not to mention, you are stopping yourself from MOVING ON to other chicks by obsessing over this.

I'm getting bigdave vibes

The better play here would have been to no contact her. Wait and see if silence brings her interest level back up and she texts you, and take it from there.

No matter, it's done now. Let that shame go, learn the lesson, and move on
You're right. I fvcked up even more by texting her. What is wrong with me?
 

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So I texted her asking if she's all done with finals and she replied. I then said "It'd be cool if we hang out sometime before your vacation (she's visiting family in Africa this summer). No response. I think I should have at least waited longer to attempt this. Or would it have not made a difference?
you tried, good, you failed, good too, now you learn and do better next time with another girl
 
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So I texted her asking if she's all done with finals and she replied. I then said "It'd be cool if we hang out sometime before your vacation (she's visiting family in Africa this summer). No response. I think I should have at least waited longer to attempt this. Or would it have not made a difference?
she goes to africa ride kangaroos?
 

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A man should never say “We should hang out sometime”.

He should say “I’m doing X this weekend. I’d like you to join me.”

Hanging out is weak. Women crave a man of decision. Have something to do and then tell her to join you.

Now the BABIES here will moan and cry and wring their hands if she says no. The MEN here will understand that the chemistry simply isn’t there so it’s on to the next.

OP, you are being a crybaby. You need to pull yourself up and stop this nonsense of fixating on one girl whom you barely know.

When you were a baby, just learning to walk, you acted more mature than you are acting now. You fell hundreds of times just like every other baby, and instead of whining and immobilizing yourself, you simply got up and tried again and again until you finally walked.

You need to STOP reviling the necessary learning process. Act, evaluate, and make corrections. That is the ONLY way you’re going to break out of your self-imposed prison cell.

You think you’re a special snowflake who can circumvent the normal human learning process. You imagine that you “should” do everything perfectly, unlike us mere mortals who are forced to learn as we go.

If you’re not good at something, then decide to learn and improve little by little. Perfectionism is a spirit killer.
 

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A man should never say “We should hang out sometime”.

He should say “I’m doing X this weekend. I’d like you to join me.”

Hanging out is weak. Women crave a man of decision. Have something to do and then tell her to join you.

Now the BABIES here will moan and cry and wring their hands if she says no. The MEN here will understand that the chemistry simply isn’t there so it’s on to the next.

OP, you are being a crybaby. You need to pull yourself up and stop this nonsense of fixating on one girl whom you barely know.

When you were a baby, just learning to walk, you acted more mature than you are acting now. You fell hundreds of times just like every other baby, and instead of whining and immobilizing yourself, you simply got up and tried again and again until you finally walked.

You need to STOP reviling the necessary learning process. Act, evaluate, and make corrections. That is the ONLY way you’re going to break out of your self-imposed prison cell.

You think you’re a special snowflake who can circumvent the normal human learning process. You imagine that you “should” do everything perfectly, unlike us mere mortals who are forced to learn as we go.

If you’re not good at something, then decide to learn and improve little by little. Perfectionism is a spirit killer.
So I looked weak and made things worse basically?
 
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