"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Did something cool today

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I've made many cold approaches during the day through the years. I would open with a random conversation, or there was another reason for me to talk with her. I've gotten many numbers and dates out of this, it's great.

Today it was a little different. I had done it once before like this, but it was with a girl in an empty supermarket. This time it was in a super crowded subway. There was this really beautiful girl sitting next to me. She was a natural beauty and just seemed so sweet. I had my earbuds in, listening to Howard Stern. I did what I've been doing lately: doing what felt right without giving a **** about what might happen.

I took my earbuds out, turned to her and just said: "Has anyone ever told you you're super cute for no real reason?"

She warmed up to me instantly and we had a great talk. Before I realized it, we were at my stop and I had to leave, so I never got around asking for her number.

Still, it felt like a huge accomplishment. I really can't think of any situation anymore where I wouldn't go after a girl now. It felt like everyone around me was looking at me, too when I said it, and I just did it.

I ****ing love myself right now.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Awesome! that's all it takes dude. Just turn to them and chat em up. That girl is going to be thinking about you like crazy i'm sure.

You did something I love to do. I love to build my relationship with a few meetings before I number close. I hate trying to chat a girl and get her number right then and there. I like to make them feel that I am asking for her number because she proved to me that she is cool and earned it. Not just oh hi your cute # please? Now you don't want to wait everything out, if she is horny you can play hard to get for maybe an hour, not a couple days lol.

Now don't slip let her earn every little bit of attention you give her!
 

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SgtSplacker said:
Awesome! that's all it takes dude. Just turn to them and chat em up. That girl is going to be thinking about you like crazy i'm sure.

You did something I love to do. I love to build my relationship with a few meetings before I number close. I hate trying to chat a girl and get her number right then and there. I like to make them feel that I am asking for her number because she proved to me that she is cool and earned it. Not just oh hi your cute # please? Now you don't want to wait everything out, if she is horny you can play hard to get for maybe an hour, not a couple days lol.

Now don't slip let her earn every little bit of attention you give her!
Yeah, man. Saying it super direct like that takes balls. I think that's why it's so attractive to them. No one else does it. Like I said, I did many daytime approaches, but never really just opened so bluntly.

And that's pretty cool what you're saying there. I never tried that, but I'm going to for sure.
 

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*silently claps at the audacity; nicely done* although number would been nice
 

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moneyisking said:
*silently claps at the audacity; nicely done* although number would been nice
Yeah, I know. I did get a number earlier that day though from a cute girl who worked at a store.

I just enjoy these small personal victories also.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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