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You f**ked up. Move on. Sorry.dudeman99 said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Did she reject me before I asked?
- Thread starter dudeman99
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
For the hell of it I sent her one last message.
"Well I see that you're busy. No worries."
and she actually writes back.
"I might try going to Club again this week. See you then?"
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Why did she even bother to reply?
That's the lamest most insincere counter offer I've ever seen.
It's like she wrote, "I'm sorry that I don't want to go on a date with you. Maybe you can see me at the end of the week during club meeting where there is no chance of us being alone together. Can't you see how nice I am? Tee hee."
"Well I see that you're busy. No worries."
and she actually writes back.
"I might try going to Club again this week. See you then?"
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Why did she even bother to reply?
That's the lamest most insincere counter offer I've ever seen.
It's like she wrote, "I'm sorry that I don't want to go on a date with you. Maybe you can see me at the end of the week during club meeting where there is no chance of us being alone together. Can't you see how nice I am? Tee hee."