Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Did she like me, or wanted me as a repairman/husband?

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There's this woman I know, (in real life) through social circles. I kind of gotten to know her through parites she's invited me to her house with other people. She's done a lot of landscape work and takes pride in her home.

IN fact, she's such a neat freak, she has a "no clutter" policy. No joke, you walk into her place she makes you take off her shoes at the foyer at all times, this goes for everyone. Something about how your shoes have been EVERYWHERE...even men's restrooms when going to pee.

Anyway, we go out on our first date and....I THINK she likes me, but she kind of asks me questions if I know how to do things around the home. She said that lately she cannot do much of the landscaping by herself...and is needing help and that I'd be nice to have someone that could help her with that.

All I do is just mow the lawn and week wack at my place, that's it. lol. She has mostly a stone back yard, with a lot of border markers and fancy duds prettying up the back yard. She even put up plant towers. It might as well be arboretum quality.

She also has a pool and I was thinking (She looking for someone to clean her pool, too?LOL)

When she asked if know how to fix things,I go, "Why? You looking for a handyman or a husband?"

She just laughed, but it was kind of a serious that entered my head.

I was wondering if she was wondering she was wanting a man for utilitarian reasons as opposed to someone she actually could LIKE. She was making it rather obvious, too. And she was looking to marry, too.

Then the kicker she told me she cares nothing about looks...which kind of cinches it there that only a woman that doesn't care about looks would want a man that she could find useful as opposed to someone she'd love.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There's this woman I know, (in real life) through social circles. I kind of gotten to know her through parites she's invited me to her house with other people. She's done a lot of landscape work and takes pride in her home.

IN fact, she's such a neat freak, she has a "no clutter" policy. No joke, you walk into her place she makes you take off her shoes at the foyer at all times, this goes for everyone. Something about how your shoes have been EVERYWHERE...even men's restrooms when going to pee..
IMO, she sounds anal, controlling and would tightly. Yes, there's pride in ownership, but she sounds like her pride sucks the fun and chill out of life. unless this is how you want to live with a female, who cares if she likes you or is looking for a handyman. Just say NO
 

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When you're done with the yard and pool, she wants you to repair the roof:

 

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She seems way too practical to be any fun. I don't see any butt sechs in your future with this ole girl!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My ability to wrap girls around my finger went up when I learned to cook. B*tches love food.
 
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