Cold approached this dime of a girl 2 weeks ago. Went out the following day and hooked up. Last week we tried to get together but couldn't get our schedules right. She texts me out of the blue yesterday seeing if I was free. Just so happened I was. Made plans to meet up today. She texted me again today wondering if we're still on. I responded yes. About 3-4 hrs later she responds with a "sorry but I'm staying in tonight instead" text. Any thoughts?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Did not see this coming, need a quick response
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sodbuster
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something/someone better showed up.... don't over think it. Be a bit harder to get..... since she already took precious time out of your life
wifehunter
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Make plans few days out... that way she gets to think about you until then.
Build anticipation.. they love drama!
Build anticipation.. they love drama!
PrettyBoyAJ
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Nah, I'd check her. Your a busy man running businesses and you have important things to do. You cleared your schedule to make time for her and then she just flaked (she really had the first dude show up). You need to let her know that she needs to respect your time.
If you don't lay down the law now she will continue to do this in the future. You need to nib this in the bud
If you don't lay down the law now she will continue to do this in the future. You need to nib this in the bud
HoneyHitter
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Ok, let me guess... you didn't bang her first chance you got. Or sex was bad. As a consequence she demoted you to orbiter status.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CMNILS87
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I'm half and half. Disciplining her does nothing. But it's odd that she reaches out and agrees to meet and even texts to make sure you're still on. That's literally a guaranteed meet up. Last minute flake. That doesn't happen often with a girl who has interest like that. Still super disrespectful. I couldn't imagine confirming and then being like "nah I'm just gonna watch Netflix".
How would you even reply? I don't get many flakes, most women in the upper Midwest are thirsty.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Dont get butt hurt...
"have a nice night" then go out have fun, and if she contacts you take your time to reply and be too busy for tbe next week or so. I would probably soft next her if she doesnt get it.
"have a nice night" then go out have fun, and if she contacts you take your time to reply and be too busy for tbe next week or so. I would probably soft next her if she doesnt get it.
BeTheChange
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Jesus...I thought this was going to be a "my wife cheated on me and now wants a divorce" type thread. What a waste of time.
Drop this women. She clearly doesn't respect your time. Making a thread over a girl you met two weeks ago...come on man.
Drop this women. She clearly doesn't respect your time. Making a thread over a girl you met two weeks ago...come on man.
Ooohhh boy! Unfortunately in the human world people will change their minds, flake on you, lie to you, and generally do weird svht.
It's how you react in these situations that will define you as a man. My top 3 responses for you would be as follows: "No Problem, or No Worries, or Cool". I would then proceed to carry on with my life as if nothing ever happened.
Quite frankly, nothing has happened other then you escalating your interest and need way faster then she has after one date.
I would suggest learning how to cultivate carrots instead of letting people dangle them in front of you.
It's how you react in these situations that will define you as a man. My top 3 responses for you would be as follows: "No Problem, or No Worries, or Cool". I would then proceed to carry on with my life as if nothing ever happened.
Quite frankly, nothing has happened other then you escalating your interest and need way faster then she has after one date.
I would suggest learning how to cultivate carrots instead of letting people dangle them in front of you.
Don't respond at all. If she reaches out again. You're too busy for her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.