Cold approached this dime of a girl 2 weeks ago. Went out the following day and hooked up. Last week we tried to get together but couldn't get our schedules right. She texts me out of the blue yesterday seeing if I was free. Just so happened I was. Made plans to meet up today. She texted me again today wondering if we're still on. I responded yes. About 3-4 hrs later she responds with a "sorry but I'm staying in tonight instead" text. Any thoughts?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Did not see this coming, need a quick response
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
something/someone better showed up.... don't over think it. Be a bit harder to get..... since she already took precious time out of your life
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Make plans few days out... that way she gets to think about you until then.
Build anticipation.. they love drama!
Build anticipation.. they love drama!
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Nah, I'd check her. Your a busy man running businesses and you have important things to do. You cleared your schedule to make time for her and then she just flaked (she really had the first dude show up). You need to let her know that she needs to respect your time.
If you don't lay down the law now she will continue to do this in the future. You need to nib this in the bud
If you don't lay down the law now she will continue to do this in the future. You need to nib this in the bud
HoneyHitter
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Ok, let me guess... you didn't bang her first chance you got. Or sex was bad. As a consequence she demoted you to orbiter status.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
CMNILS87
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I'm half and half. Disciplining her does nothing. But it's odd that she reaches out and agrees to meet and even texts to make sure you're still on. That's literally a guaranteed meet up. Last minute flake. That doesn't happen often with a girl who has interest like that. Still super disrespectful. I couldn't imagine confirming and then being like "nah I'm just gonna watch Netflix".
How would you even reply? I don't get many flakes, most women in the upper Midwest are thirsty.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Dont get butt hurt...
"have a nice night" then go out have fun, and if she contacts you take your time to reply and be too busy for tbe next week or so. I would probably soft next her if she doesnt get it.
"have a nice night" then go out have fun, and if she contacts you take your time to reply and be too busy for tbe next week or so. I would probably soft next her if she doesnt get it.
BeTheChange
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Jesus...I thought this was going to be a "my wife cheated on me and now wants a divorce" type thread. What a waste of time.
Drop this women. She clearly doesn't respect your time. Making a thread over a girl you met two weeks ago...come on man.
Drop this women. She clearly doesn't respect your time. Making a thread over a girl you met two weeks ago...come on man.
Ooohhh boy! Unfortunately in the human world people will change their minds, flake on you, lie to you, and generally do weird svht.
It's how you react in these situations that will define you as a man. My top 3 responses for you would be as follows: "No Problem, or No Worries, or Cool". I would then proceed to carry on with my life as if nothing ever happened.
Quite frankly, nothing has happened other then you escalating your interest and need way faster then she has after one date.
I would suggest learning how to cultivate carrots instead of letting people dangle them in front of you.
It's how you react in these situations that will define you as a man. My top 3 responses for you would be as follows: "No Problem, or No Worries, or Cool". I would then proceed to carry on with my life as if nothing ever happened.
Quite frankly, nothing has happened other then you escalating your interest and need way faster then she has after one date.
I would suggest learning how to cultivate carrots instead of letting people dangle them in front of you.
Don't respond at all. If she reaches out again. You're too busy for her.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.