"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Did i spend too much?

onyx

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give her your **** she'll think thats great
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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typical

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God bro, stop thinking about how much you spent and focus on spending the day with the girl.

I got my girl a bag of choc kisses and a cute cuddly bear that has a heart on it. We met up at the local mall at around midday and spent the whole afternoon in a nearby park just chilling out.

Stop the fancy sh!t and next year bring it back down to earth, instead of spending a huge amount in gifts spend a huge amount in time.
 

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discard the flower...

discard the card...

that's it...

have a dinner at ur place...
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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kdnash82 said:
prepare to be very disappointed at the present she got you.
:crackup: Can we say PEZ dispenser? But seriously, the DVD box set is a good idea but only if you guys make it to Christmas. The rainbow cookies would have been more than enough.
 

G-Theory

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DJinTraining06 said:
Well actually now im thinking bout gettin her just one red rose.
One single red rose is a little cheese. I don't know if you are into the "significance of flowers" but I thought everyone knew that a single rose meant "I love you". Let's face it, those three words are the last thing you wan to tell a brawd.

There was another thread started earlier that gave some decent advice check it out.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=118337

Me personally, I'm a cheap ass and the only way I would spend more than $20 bucks on a brawd is if she was fun in bed, then I'd get her a toy (but I'd end up keeping it because then you get more out of it; she thinks it's "her v-day gift" and you get to use it on the other women your dating. It's win/win.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nighthawk

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Yes you did. Forget ALL the flowers, and get her hint that she doesn't want you to smother her with gifts. It looks needy, trust us.
 

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As I mentioned earlier, I decided to leave out flowers altogether this year, with the exception of a tulip pot for my mom. They're way too expensive, way too cliche, they're gone in a few days, and they're pretty pointless IMO. You can get a badass lookin plush teddy bear for $5 and you get bet your ass it'll stick around.

So yes, you spent too much. It's ok I've been there too.
 

Desdinova

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Dude, I've been with my woman for 3 years, and I took her out for dinner which cost $30 for the both of us. You've been with her for less than 3 months and you're willing to spend between $50 and $100 on her.

She probably got you a card and a keychain.
 

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Jesus Christ dude, not even my dad got my mom so much and theyve been married for 17 years. He got a her a ****ing pillow.

Now, what you did was give her incentive to suck up even more, and i bet right now, her birthday is a day she is REALLY looking forward to.

Straighten up, you made a mistake, you showed a weakness. The error has been done, all thats left is for you to learn from it. She is leeching off you, in the manner that you bought her 90832498390 things and she is gonna give you a lame-ass card with some cliche poem inside. Guaranteed.

NO FLOWERS either. Over used.

Just enjoy what is left from it.. :)


Laterz, Kiko
 

Kev07

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take this as a lesson, i had to learn the hard way.

never EVER give any hints about what you are getting for someone(friend girl whatever, birthday WHATEVER) don't even mention a gift.

on a side note, my friend got an interesting vday gift from his gf today.

his girlfriend sent him on a mad scavenger hunt, where he had to find out who some people were, then telling them something to get a clue. the clue then leads you to the next person etc.

I was following him around this whole time, i thought this was very interesting. well not to my surprise, the final clue lead to her and she had some gifts (clothes and stuff) on her bed. Let's just say i left right when i got in the room.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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