"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This guy came in, (an acquaintance) and asked for a drink from me in the bar I work in. He started to chat to the chick that I like who I work with while I was serving him. After giving me the exact money for the drink he said 'Keep the change'..in a cheeky tone, basically trying to put me down in front of that girl to make himself look good or powerful.

I told him that there was no change in an equally smart tone. Afterwards, he came up and tried to say goodbye (in front of chick). I asked him if he'd also let me keep the change later in an antagonistic manner. He started laughing, and said he couldn't take me seriously. I replied 'ditto'. He said goodbye and I said nothing. Male workmate asked me in front of chick if I knew him - I replied 'yes, from school, he's a loser', when loser had left.

The b*stard will try and say sorry (I know his type) - I will make him do it public (facebook) if he wants to apologise. Otherwise he was trying a power play in front of a girl I work with to look good, to my detriment.

Did I deal with him correctly?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well judging by his IOI's I say no.
 

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PokerStar said:
well judging by his IOI's I say no.
I don't see what you're talking about.

OP: It seems like a snarky and effective putdown but you tell us whether it worked or not. What are the results?
 

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it was sarcasm.

to be honest OP, you shouldnt be treating customers like that, even if he was being a douchebag.

sounds like your emotions got the best of you. remember only a playa pimp doesnt let things affect him. even if it was a b*tch ass customer trying to look good infront other women.
 

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Believe you're the great catch. Know that you're better than the douche, and your actions will speak the same. If he was trying to look cool in front of this bird, odds are she knew what he was doing. Women actually know a lot, they just pretend not to. Because he was trying to look cool, she wouldn't really get with him (if she's the right type of girl). You had nothing to worry about. Just play it cool next time knowing chicks don't go for guys who try too hard. Like what Mr. Douche was clearly doing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why did you ****block your acquantance?
 
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