"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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did i pull the bad boy/alpha male right?

tarotale

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i am focusing on being a true alpha male and bad boy. i am a natural AFC who
thought for some reason like most of men that being nice to women was sure way to get pvssy. how wrong was i haha.

well, couple days ago, this cute chick in my campus just out of blue tells me "you're retarded". she was not really joking faced.

i looked at her and told her "so is this type of screen test you do on men? well, let me tell you, unfortunately, you are not the one who tests. I am. and so far by your attitude and behavior, you're failing bad. so my advice for you is to apologize and tell me you were sorry for misbehaving if you want to stay in my waiting list"

she looked kind of shocked and said sorry. i just told her not much and turned around and left. i was kind of surprised that i pulled this bad boy thing since like i said, i am natural former AFC and i sometimes still fvck up w/ my inner AFC if i let my guard down. since i am not a natural bad boy, i don know if this bad boy thing can really be my second hand nature.

later she called me and said she was sorry. i told her it's ok and next time flirting will be little better method to pass my test. real bad boys let me know
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hello Op, nice comeback
That was very rude of her to say something like that .. great way to show your value.
But let me explain something to you.
In order to be successful with women you don't have to be this author fonzerelli type of bad boy. Let me explain to you the problem with nice guys..

Its nothing wrong with being a gentleman..
You can hold doors open
Pull out chairs or anything else you see fit to do out of politeness..
Here is where nice guys fail..

You don't go out of your way to be nice in order to gain her approval .. that is what typical nice guys do.. but if your kind to her just because that's who you are than its nothing wrong with that.
Being a "bad boy" is in your genome its not really something you can learn
Do you really want to go through your day forcing false interactions with females attempting to be a "bad boy" when its not who you are?
Sounds mentally exhausting to me personally.

-So even though that was a great comeback here's a better approach..
Instead of trying to illicit to females your a badazz mo'fo..
Instead idealize the frame that your a valuable person.
She has no more or no less value than you as an individual and owes you respect as a man A human being and the cool dude that I know you have the potential to be..

So accept no disrespect or tolerate it.
Hope that helps
Keep us posted
-chris
 

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You must've done something stupid for her to call you names like that.

But anyway, I wouldn't have called her out directly about it. I don't think she would hook up with you, although you showed her your worth. I would just show her that her comment did not affect me in any way, maybe fake a smile and walk off. Ridicule her indirectly.

You'll send a message to her that you are a man of abundance.

Keep us posted on this girl, though, prove me wrong.
 

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Hold open a door for a girl and just as she's about to walk through, thanking you for being a gentleman, shout "LEGENDS FIRST" and barge her out the way, walking through yourself.

This is true bad boy, and the girls love it. (Don't do it to random girls you've never spoken too though)
 

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Did you do something to piss her off to begin with?

As far as being a "bad boy" goes, I don't think you really need to be a bad boy.

I think one of the most important lessons I learned from pick up is truly expressing myself. The reason why women do go for the douchy guys or *******s is because they truly express themselves, perhaps its in a selfish way, but at least they're genuine with their emotions.

Honestly, if you notice, a lot of the douchy/******* guys have a lot of people that hate them, but also a lot of people that like them. I used to be AFC and I tried to please everyone.

Next time something happens like that, just really take a second to let loose, don't be afraid if something pisses you off, just express it. As long as your congruent with your emotions, you're fine, you don't need to be a douche or *******, though when you become good with women, most men do gravitate to that persona. It's just human nature, when you have an abundance of something, you just disregard it.

-Kevin
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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seems like a kinda long-winded reply lol that must have took a while to say. sounds like it got the job done though if thats how she responded.

i probably would have joked about it sayin "Yeah and you're hideous, but i don't say the things like that out loud, it's not nice"

plus if a girl straight-faced seriously called me retarded id be more concerned with my own ego than picking her up or getting her to apologize lol i'd want to end the convo with the upper hand
 

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dude that wasnt even a bad boy response. you shouldve said "yea and with those clothes you look like a whóre"
 
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