Did I over react?

[way2smart]

Solid advice guys. I will send nothing.

 

[Fireballs]

When you call girls out this way they will place ALL the blame on YOU and take no responsibility for what caused you to act this way.

I like Deesade's idea of just leaving and when she blows up your phone you text her 'come over'.

 

[jaygreenb]

It wasn't "tight game" like people are saying at all. And this is why.

You rage-quit needlessly on a set that had a lot of life in it. And you regret it.

You are purposely trying to punish her. But really you're cutting your nose off to spite your face.

Like I said to you in the other thread where you asked the same question, leaving is fair enough. She wasn't being respectful of your time.

If she's done it before, another trick you can use (that I actually learnt from women doing it on me) is to mirror her tardiness.

On leaving, I'm with not wanting to go back too (sort of embaressing).

So instead, you tell her that you've gone home and she can join you there. And then you tease the fvck out of her about it.

That's developing a relationship with her on your terms.

What you did was to close the door completely. And women are generally far more prideful than many here give them credit for. Allow her to save some face whilst doing it on your terms, and everyone is happy.

Closing the door on her is great, when you've actually had enough of her - not when you're counting the days until she initiates.

Why do I say this? Because i've been the guy rage-quitting relationship after relationship, and consoling that I am a prideful person - when really I had very immature boundaries.

Just a heads up.

Very solid post

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Her being late shows she does not give a **** and paves a picture of the disrespect to come. Go silent.

 

[way2smart]

What you did was to close the door completely. And women are generally far more prideful than many here give them credit for. Allow her to save some face whilst doing it on your terms, and everyone is happy.

Fair enough. What do you think is the best course if action now? What's done is done.

 

[TheGambino]

Fair enough. What do you think is the best course if action now? What's done is done.

Nothing wait

 

[way2smart]

To follow from this now, i probably would use something like her birthday as an excuse to send a feeler out to test if there's any interest left in the set. If there's not, i'd just consider it done and move it on.

I am pretty sure there's interest, because she always touches me and kisses me when together, I just don't want to appear desperate. Besides I need to punish her for disrespecting me.

 

[Roober]

I am pretty sure there's interest, because she always touches me and kisses me when together, I just don't want to appear desperate. Besides I need to punish her for disrespecting me.

I think you completely missed the point of what @deesade was saying.... sigh... this woman whom you have gone out with only 3 times and accepted her tardy behavior until recently, owes you nothing...

 

[way2smart]

this woman whom you have gone out with only 3 times and accepted her tardy behavior until recently, owes you nothing...

Yep and neither do I.

 

[Macaframalama]

I am pretty sure there's interest, because she always touches me and kisses me when together, I just don't want to appear desperate. Besides I need to punish her for disrespecting me.

You may have bruised her ego to the point that she may not reach out. I would do as deesade suggested. Her birthday couldn't have came at a better time.

 

[BeExcellent]

I'm 100% with @deesade on this one. OP must look at how he handled this situation with regard to how does it benefit OP.

Slamming the door is not serving OP in this set, obviously. In the woman's mind OP went from cool/likable to ass hole in 60 seconds flat. That's hard to recover from.

If she has any sense of self worth she's thinking "what a giant jerk...dodged a bullet on that one".

So I agree a Hail Mary near her birthday is good for a feeler text. OP kinda burned the whole thing down to such a degree that I would be surprised if she re-engaged at all. My guess is OP gets a "Thank you" at most and nothing more (but I could be wrong.)

Use this as a learning experience in any case. And let the thread know the outcome as that would be beneficial for others besides/in addition to OP.

 

[way2smart]

If reaching out to her, and possibly not getting a response could make you upset, then stay "no contact".

I am certain that I will get a response if I reach out to her, the question is, will her disrespect continue if I reach out first?

 

[Glassguy]

I am certain that I will get a response if I reach out to her, the question is, will her disrespect continue if I reach out first?

Probably. It never works with a chick once you have frustration and are p!ssed at her. Thus why I disagree with all who say to reach out and are asking why you slammed the door on her.

I look at it as she slammed the door on herself.

Its in the very beginning stages of dating this chick and she is already this disrespectful of your time and obviously being ready FOR YOU on time was no great concern of hers. What will she be disrespectful of next if you continue seeing her?

A billion chicks are walking this earth that are in the age bracket that you are looking for. Why in the world would you want this one after how she decided to act.

What makes it worse is that she really didnt even have a reason. "I lost track of time"???? Are you fvcking kidding?

Bye bye.....next.

 

[sazc]

I am certain that I will get a response if I reach out to her, the question is, will her disrespect continue if I reach out first?

If she responds and you guys get it back on track, make sure you have a constructive conversation about your expectations, prior to meeting for your next date

 

[way2smart]

What makes it worse is that she really didnt even have a reason. "I lost track of time"???? Are you fvcking kidding?

I agree. And one time she made me wait 40 minutes, with no heads up like "Hey I am running like". That time she came up with "I had to finish stuff at work", which is fine, but at least she could have given me a heads up and could have said "I am running late, can you come 30 minutes late" or something along those lines. This is just total disrespect of my time.

She maybe a HB 9, but I am much higher value than her. I own a business, make around 250k, dine at the best restaurants in town and drive a luxury car.
I believe she has a lot more to loose than me.

 

[Glassguy]

I agree. And one time she made me wait 40 minutes, with no heads up like "Hey I am running like". That time she came up with "I had to finish stuff at work", which is fine, but at least she could have given me a heads up and could have said "I am running late, can you come 30 minutes late" or something along those lines. This is just total disrespect of my time.

She maybe a HB 9, but I am much higher value than her. I own a business, make around 250k, dine at the best restaurants in town and drive a luxury car.
I believe she has a lot more to loose than me.

I agree. Total disrespect. Treat her as a smash plate at your place if she reaches out. Nothing more. I can tell that you honestly could care less about her birthday, so why send her anything.

She should be the one feeling you out at this point, not the other way around. You did exacrly what you are supposed to do on a date (get ready, pick her up on time and be mentally ready to show her a good time). She is the one that failed to uphold her end of the bargain when she agreed to the date.

I would consider it chasing after bad behavior if you were to reach out at this point.

 

[Macaframalama]

I am certain that I will get a response if I reach out to her, the question is, will her disrespect continue if I reach out first?

You have to figure out for yourself what type of man you are and the rules that you play by and how much chit you are willing to eat along the way. To me, one set isn't worth my principles and game as a whole. Short term vs long term trade-off. It does require a little more patience, but nothing worth while comes easy. 40 minutes, without a call, fvck that. She just gives zero fvcks. You're playing your game. You write the rules and regulations.

 

[way2smart]

I decided not to reach out first. If she has high interest in me she will reach out first. If she doesn't then i don't need a girl with low interest.
She fu*cked up big time, not once but 3 times. I can't be a doormat and reach out first.

 

[antr]

I decided not to reach out first. If she has high interest in me she will reach out first. If she doesn't then i don't need a girl with low interest.
She fu*cked up big time, not once but 3 times. I can't be a doormat and reach out first.

I think her IL is low anyway, you can probably raise it but it will just drop again.

 

[way2smart]

I think her IL is low anyway, you can probably raise it but it will just drop again.

Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Honestly I don't care. In the end for me it's more important to have my respect rather than reach out.