"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DID I over react??? LTR - Need some thoughts !
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You were wrong to swear at her, loose your cool, and say \ act mad even in an email. In her email back, she came back fighting, she was not apologetic.
If it had been me, talking about it quickly over the phone to sort it out ( even with a small cost) would be worth it. You;ve been seeing her 3 years after all ! whether she's lying or not, you did not deal with this great, and it sounds like you've hurt her. When she lets you down, there;s no need to hurt her, just stay in control, be calm and let her know whats what - put her straight about whats acceptable and whats not. easy isnt it?
now your ass is on the line too, when it should have only been hers.
Do you trust her? sounds like your suspicious. A good way to see if she can be trsusted is if she has cheated on any of her previous boyfriends.
Yes you overreacted. You could fix this in 2 seconds by just admitting it and saying sorry.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.