"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Did I make the right decision?

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Originally posted by neobrood
Anyway, at least she was the chick who opened my eyes to the Don Juan universe... :D
In other words, this girl LJBF'd you, you got your feelings hurt, and someone kicked you a link and now you're trying to use what you found on this site to patch up your doomed, nonexistant relationship with this girl.

Your eyes aren't open yet, bud.

Date 3 or 4 other women and see if this one is really worth it compared to all of the others.

BTW...the one-itis that drove me to this site initially...that girl was most attracted to me when I was macking other women. :D

If she wants to be friends, I'd say just BE FRIENDS with her. Treat her like a sister...let her introduce you to her friends. Some of them are bound to be attractive. Use her as a wing/pivot in clubs and such. Being seen with a close female friend lowers your "creep factor" with a lot of women. ;)

If you don't think you can handle that with your current level of emotional attachment, then yeah, you're doing the right thing. Just tell her, "I'd like to be your friend, but it just wouldn't be healthy, because I don't think about you in that platonic way. I need 'space'". LOL make up some excuse so she doesn't feel like you don't like her any more and just cut away clean.

You need to accept the fact that you took a loss here before you start working to improve your game.

Besides, this chick is a self-professed weirdo who has a lot of trouble with physical intimacy, even on a friendly level (unless you're just being all creepy and unnatural the way you touch her). Do you really WANT to spend time with someone like that just because she's cute and has a 'gina?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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