"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Did I make the right decision?

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Originally posted by neobrood
Anyway, at least she was the chick who opened my eyes to the Don Juan universe... :D
In other words, this girl LJBF'd you, you got your feelings hurt, and someone kicked you a link and now you're trying to use what you found on this site to patch up your doomed, nonexistant relationship with this girl.

Your eyes aren't open yet, bud.

Date 3 or 4 other women and see if this one is really worth it compared to all of the others.

BTW...the one-itis that drove me to this site initially...that girl was most attracted to me when I was macking other women. :D

If she wants to be friends, I'd say just BE FRIENDS with her. Treat her like a sister...let her introduce you to her friends. Some of them are bound to be attractive. Use her as a wing/pivot in clubs and such. Being seen with a close female friend lowers your "creep factor" with a lot of women. ;)

If you don't think you can handle that with your current level of emotional attachment, then yeah, you're doing the right thing. Just tell her, "I'd like to be your friend, but it just wouldn't be healthy, because I don't think about you in that platonic way. I need 'space'". LOL make up some excuse so she doesn't feel like you don't like her any more and just cut away clean.

You need to accept the fact that you took a loss here before you start working to improve your game.

Besides, this chick is a self-professed weirdo who has a lot of trouble with physical intimacy, even on a friendly level (unless you're just being all creepy and unnatural the way you touch her). Do you really WANT to spend time with someone like that just because she's cute and has a 'gina?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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