"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok was supposed to go out with this girl for the fourth time tonight. She called about a half hour ago which 2 hours before we were supposed to go out and more or less says she is not feeling well but asks if we could go out tommorow.

I am unsure of tommorow becuase I do have other things to do but none of them actually are important, so I just said well I don't know but I could be able to do something with her. She then said something of the nature "ok I will call you and let you know how I am feeling tommorow" and kinda rushed me off the phone.

Anyways, I waited like 10 mins and decided to ring her back, she apologized saying her mom was ringing herwhen we were on the phone earlier. I felt like she might have been pulling a fade becuase she is going away for a week on friday. I more or less said... Listen, I put some things aside on saturday because you wanted to hang out and I would like to continue to get to know you better. I know you don't feel well and your cancelling, thats fine, but I did have other things to do today as well. However, tommorow I do have stuff to do, I don't want to rearrange things although they are not important just everday ****, if you do not actually want to go out. She replies no she wants to go out and what not.

Now did I come off as needy in this situation. I was firm, I showed I think some balls by showing I was upset for the cancellation. I guess what I am asking is by more or less being upfront saying I have **** thats not important but I would rather do that than be stringed along work in my favor, or did I make a jerk of myself.
 

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you did fine until you called her back. you should have left it where it was, her needing to call you.
 

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so tommorow when we go out, do I apologize if I came off the wrong way, or just take it in stride.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Just take it in stride. If she brings it up
then tell her you didn't mean to be rude
or anything, your a busy man and you
don't have time for games.
 

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Ok so she called today and flat out said that she was really impressed by how upfront I was, she was like most guys would either try to play it off that its nothing or just make an assumption. She then asked if we were still on for tonight......

Anyways, was this a possible **** test? Or should I just not doubt myself and play the situation on the fly and use my best instincts in the future when it comes to any woman.
 
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