"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did I let her walk all over me?

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arcilitei34

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Well today i went to my gf's house to try to "fix her computer" as the reason why i always go over, usually when i go over to do that, we end up making out heavily before i can even get to the computer. But today she was really really tired, and complained that her shoulders hurt from work, so I gave her a massage because she gave me one earlier, she got really tired afterwards and didnt really want to fool around, i was like. shiit, so i actually ended up fixing part of her computer which is a shocker, afterwards i just decided to leave because she was being so boring/tired and just laying there, as i left for the door i just gave her a really long kiss and as she was enjoying it i left.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dude, I see you problem with any of that. Quit overanalyzing everything. I used to fall victim to that myself, and it got me nowhere. She was just tired. It wasn't you at all.

Actually, it kinda sounds like to me that she's using the "computer" excuse just to get you over there for some action. I'd take advantage of that next time you go over there. Maybe take it a step further. But either way, she didn't walk over you at all. Relax



Just as an example. Here's your situation where she does walk all over you:

-She invites you over to fix her comp.
-She doesn't kiss you at all
-Makes you leave after a few minutes
-Calls you only to see if you can fix her comp or help her do other things
-Treats you with disrespect


Obviously, these are all pretty general and common sense. She didn't do anything close to that. Looks like you're doin' a pretty good job.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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