did i handle this the right way

[Cougar10033]

Me and my gf of 3 months were driving up to her place and out of the blue she says some guy asked for my number at work today. I looked at her chuckled and said you should give him your number he would prolly take you shopping and youd get some free meals out of the deal. She looked at me somewhat in shock and said no i didnt give him my number i got yours and thats all i want. I think i handled this test well, what do u guys think

 

[##17]

Originally posted by Cougar10033
Me and my gf of 3 months were driving up to her place and out of the blue she says some guy asked for my number at work today. I looked at her chuckled and said you should give him your number he would prolly take you shopping and youd get some free meals out of the deal. She looked at me somewhat in shock and said no i didnt give him my number i got yours and thats all i want. I think i handled this test well, what do u guys think

You handled the test well, although I would have followed up her "I got you..." with "That's right. You're a lucky gal", and a smile and a wink.

You have to realize that some of the things you say in response to her tests are going to make her mad. That doesn't necessarily mean that you handled it poorly. The way to pass her tests is to show her that you live in your own reality. Whose reality do you live in, yours or hers?

 

[##17]

Originally posted by Cougar10033
Me and my gf of 3 months were driving up to her place and out of the blue she says some guy asked for my number at work today. I looked at her chuckled and said you should give him your number he would prolly take you shopping and youd get some free meals out of the deal. She looked at me somewhat in shock and said no i didnt give him my number i got yours and thats all i want. I think i handled this test well, what do u guys think

You handled the test well, although I would have followed up her "I got you..." with "That's right. You're a lucky gal", and a smile and a wink.

You have to realize that some of the things you say in response to her tests are going to make her mad. That doesn't necessarily mean that you handled it poorly. The way to pass her tests is to show her that you live in your own reality. Whose reality do you live in, yours or hers?

 

[##17]

Originally posted by Cougar10033
Me and my gf of 3 months were driving up to her place and out of the blue she says some guy asked for my number at work today. I looked at her chuckled and said you should give him your number he would prolly take you shopping and youd get some free meals out of the deal. She looked at me somewhat in shock and said no i didnt give him my number i got yours and thats all i want. I think i handled this test well, what do u guys think

You handled the test well, although I would have followed up her "I got you..." with "That's right. You're a lucky gal", and a smile and a wink.

You have to realize that some of the things you say in response to her tests are going to make her mad. That doesn't necessarily mean that you handled it poorly. The way to pass her tests is to show her that you live in your own reality. Whose reality do you live in, yours or hers?

I apologize for the duplicate posts. I hit the "Post now" button more than once.

 

[xblitz44x]

Originally posted by Cougar10033
Me and my gf of 3 months were driving up to her place and out of the blue she says some guy asked for my number at work today. I looked at her chuckled and said you should give him your number he would prolly take you shopping and youd get some free meals out of the deal. She looked at me somewhat in shock and said no i didnt give him my number i got yours and thats all i want. I think i handled this test well, what do u guys think

You handled it perfect. You showed that you aren't the least bit concerned either way. I don't like the advice from the guy above me because it makes it seem like you have to go out of your way to tell her how 'lucky' she is to have such a 'cool guy'. Let her come to her own conclusions based on your reaction.

 

[Qmanchoo]

Look at the context of the situation. Do you really think it was a **** test or was she just telling you about her day and the only emotionally relevant thing that happened to her that she cared to talk about? I think the later.

Your girlfriend will get hit on and they may talk about it with you, that does not make it a **** test… I mean it’s only natural that they get hit on man… the problem is if you get all jealous and weird or get angry with her because of it… you handled it perfectly but I don’t think it was a **** test.

My interpretation:

JoeBlow comes to sosuave > learns about shyt tests > anything a girl says that gets him oddly emotional or quirks him in an odd way he interprets as a “shyt test” and responds like a “DJ”… cool calm and collected. Maybe even has a clever turn around for the situation. And it works OMG! lol

A natural MAN is out with his GF > his GF gets hit on > natural man laughs it off because he’s secure in himself and knows that A. if she’s worth a damn she’ll blow the guy off B. If she doesn’t she’s not worth your time anyway.

Both situations were the right way to act and ended ok… just different paths to getting there.

Her answer was great though, shows she really digs you.

 

[Qmanchoo]

xblitz44x - Anything said with pure manly confidence is perfectly fine. You can sy “you’re a lucky gal.” You are not correct here. Letting a woman’s mind come to its own conclusions instead of guiding them to where you want them to be is certainly not a better choice of direction. Silence breeds conclusions that are consistent with her frame not the one you want her to have.

 

[##17]

Whether or not you say the WORDS "You're a lucky gal" isn't a big deal, as long as, if you do say it, you say it with a fun tonality, not in a serious tone. It's the ATTITUDE you have--you're confident, secure, because you know you're good stuff.

Now, she might have told you to get a reaction from you--her subtle way of letting you know that other guys find her attractive. Or she might have told you because she would have felt guilty keeping it to herself. Either way, it aounds that you handled her tests well.

 

[xblitz44x]

I'm willing to bet the farm that she told him because she was proud that somebody hit on her. Nothing wrong with that though. It just made her feel good.

I use to work at a bar, and my girlfriend would swing by and hang out. At the end of the night, on the drive home we'd have the "How many people hit on you?" contest. She won just about every time. But that's because I don't have 5 thousand dollars worth of work hanging from my chest.

 

[blinkwatt]

Solid response,you did not lose your cool and turn AFC.