"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Long story short I was gaming this girl through text when this came up-

Me: Damn, ice skating, dancing, gymnastics, anything you cant do? 0_0

Her: Fly. And ride a bike...

Me: Well thats a deal breaker. Sorry, I only date girls who fly and/or ride bikes. :p

Her: Who said I wanted to date you?

Me: Oh please what girl doesnt want to date me?
aha Im just kidding

Her: haha

Do you think I may have overplayed my part? Was there a better way for me to handle this situation?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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the "haha im just kidding" fvcked it up if anything

but if she had high interest level it wouldnt matter.. seems like she doesnt have high interest level
 
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plus whats with all the emoticons? that sh!t is whack if overused, makes u seem to invested..

in general text game is hit or miss,

hit: if she already has high interest level

miss: if she doesnt have high IL - in fact if she doesnt have high IL text game might make her less interested..

only game her in person if you want to have any chance of raising her interest level - in person game is far more powerful
 
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You screwed up, move on. Right when you drop the "date" line you lost her, you probably shocked her or freaked her out. Never mention crap like that to women until they bring it up first. Telling some girl you just started gaming that you want to date her comes off as desperate.

Chill with the emoticons too.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mcrich114 said:
Long story short I was gaming this girl through text when this came up-

Me: Damn, ice skating, dancing, gymnastics, anything you cant do? 0_0

Her: Fly. And ride a bike...

Me: Well thats a deal breaker. Sorry, I only date girls who fly and/or ride bikes. :p

Her: Who said I wanted to date you?

Me: common sense
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that's what I'd have said.

"logic" or "you did" followed by "in your mind" might also work

what you said was fine too except for the whole "i'm just kidding" part
 
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MrNiceGuy23 said:
You screwed up, move on. Right when you drop the "date" line you lost her, you probably shocked her or freaked her out. Never mention crap like that to women until they bring it up first. Telling some girl you just started gaming that you want to date her comes off as desperate.

Chill with the emoticons too.
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do you have a PHD in jumping to conclusions?
 
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Like others have said....no emoticons, you're a man not a b!tch.

and the "oh please, what girl doesn't want to date me?" was fine, but you definitely killed it with the "aha just kidding"

In general, make it a rule to not say "haha" or "aha" or "lol" or "lmao" or anything like that. And don't say "just kidding". That makes it seem like you're apologizing for something...


Don't game girls through text. Texting should be primarily for logistics only. Setting up dates, confirming, etc.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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devilkingx2 said:
do you have a PHD in jumping to conclusions?
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Ask anybody who's been in the game for awhile. You never show your cards to a woman, especially when it's as new as this scenario. If a girl came up to you and 5 minutes into your conversation was talking about becoming your girlfriend, would you be fine with that?

You come off as desperate and easy if you're talking about dating someone you don't even really know yet. I would think "What is wrong with her she doesn't know anything about me yet but she wants to be my girlfriend?" It's desperate, sorry you can't see that.
 
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MrNiceGuy23 said:
Ask anybody who's been in the game for awhile. You never show your cards to a woman, especially when it's as new as this scenario. If a girl came up to you and 5 minutes into your conversation was talking about becoming your girlfriend, would you be fine with that?

You come off as desperate and easy if you're talking about dating someone you don't even really know yet. I would think "What is wrong with her she doesn't know anything about me yet but she wants to be my girlfriend?" It's desperate, sorry you can't see that.
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It depends on the frame. It doesn't have to be real.
 
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