"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Long story short I was gaming this girl through text when this came up-

Me: Damn, ice skating, dancing, gymnastics, anything you cant do? 0_0

Her: Fly. And ride a bike...

Me: Well thats a deal breaker. Sorry, I only date girls who fly and/or ride bikes. :p

Her: Who said I wanted to date you?

Me: Oh please what girl doesnt want to date me?
aha Im just kidding

Her: haha

Do you think I may have overplayed my part? Was there a better way for me to handle this situation?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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the "haha im just kidding" fvcked it up if anything

but if she had high interest level it wouldnt matter.. seems like she doesnt have high interest level
 
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plus whats with all the emoticons? that sh!t is whack if overused, makes u seem to invested..

in general text game is hit or miss,

hit: if she already has high interest level

miss: if she doesnt have high IL - in fact if she doesnt have high IL text game might make her less interested..

only game her in person if you want to have any chance of raising her interest level - in person game is far more powerful
 
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You screwed up, move on. Right when you drop the "date" line you lost her, you probably shocked her or freaked her out. Never mention crap like that to women until they bring it up first. Telling some girl you just started gaming that you want to date her comes off as desperate.

Chill with the emoticons too.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mcrich114 said:
Long story short I was gaming this girl through text when this came up-

Me: Damn, ice skating, dancing, gymnastics, anything you cant do? 0_0

Her: Fly. And ride a bike...

Me: Well thats a deal breaker. Sorry, I only date girls who fly and/or ride bikes. :p

Her: Who said I wanted to date you?

Me: common sense
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that's what I'd have said.

"logic" or "you did" followed by "in your mind" might also work

what you said was fine too except for the whole "i'm just kidding" part
 
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MrNiceGuy23 said:
You screwed up, move on. Right when you drop the "date" line you lost her, you probably shocked her or freaked her out. Never mention crap like that to women until they bring it up first. Telling some girl you just started gaming that you want to date her comes off as desperate.

Chill with the emoticons too.
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do you have a PHD in jumping to conclusions?
 
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Like others have said....no emoticons, you're a man not a b!tch.

and the "oh please, what girl doesn't want to date me?" was fine, but you definitely killed it with the "aha just kidding"

In general, make it a rule to not say "haha" or "aha" or "lol" or "lmao" or anything like that. And don't say "just kidding". That makes it seem like you're apologizing for something...


Don't game girls through text. Texting should be primarily for logistics only. Setting up dates, confirming, etc.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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devilkingx2 said:
do you have a PHD in jumping to conclusions?
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Ask anybody who's been in the game for awhile. You never show your cards to a woman, especially when it's as new as this scenario. If a girl came up to you and 5 minutes into your conversation was talking about becoming your girlfriend, would you be fine with that?

You come off as desperate and easy if you're talking about dating someone you don't even really know yet. I would think "What is wrong with her she doesn't know anything about me yet but she wants to be my girlfriend?" It's desperate, sorry you can't see that.
 
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MrNiceGuy23 said:
Ask anybody who's been in the game for awhile. You never show your cards to a woman, especially when it's as new as this scenario. If a girl came up to you and 5 minutes into your conversation was talking about becoming your girlfriend, would you be fine with that?

You come off as desperate and easy if you're talking about dating someone you don't even really know yet. I would think "What is wrong with her she doesn't know anything about me yet but she wants to be my girlfriend?" It's desperate, sorry you can't see that.
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It depends on the frame. It doesn't have to be real.
 
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