"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did I handle this in the right way?

CFSC245

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So
Ive been seeing this girl for a couple of months, and it was all going fine up until about a week before Christmas.

She had a xmas party with work and I was doing something unreleated. The entire time she was texting me pretty much begging me to come down and see her saying she misses me blah blah blah. So I went down and she ignores me. Then goes to sit one on one with her ex boyfriend at a table! I walked out and she accuses me of being a **** etc and I havent heard much from her since.

Fast forward to last night, and I decide to deactivate my facebook, mainly because I cant be bothered with it and wanted to see if I can handle not having one. I get a really moaney text message off her saying "YOuve Blocked me on facebook?! You really need to grow up" Obviously I hadn't blocked her so I just replied by saying "Ive actually deactivated it, but I really don't like being spoken to like that."

Now I actually quite liked this girl, but ever since the incident with her ex it seems like her interest level has just dropped. Wanted a bit of adv ice was I just getting used to make some other bloke jealous? Don't really know what to do next
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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alpha_ash

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You handled it very well. Your actions and words have made it clear that you won't accept disrespect from her. However at the same time you hid your emotions well. Either she will come around or go around on the **** merry-go-round. You have made your move, now it's her turn to get on her knees and give you a make-up bj.

Don't worry about this because there wasn't a better way to handle disrespect and dropping IL.
 

lamobatsman

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haha i never understand why women say you have blocked me, you need to grow up! a girl did this on my a few weeks ago
 

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I just dont get it haha I don't know if she'll get in contact again but I won't be getting in touch with her. Balls in her court really.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Not only is she around her ex bf but she is sitting at a table with him. That's an automatic firing dog. Charge that disrespect to the game. She should have enough respect for you especially after months of dating. If she is doing this now then I wonder what she is done in the past.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The weird thing with that was she was BEGGING me to come down. Im not sure if it was just some game or shes not really over him and was trying to make him jealous? She put the seed of doubt in my mind that I over reacted by walking out but having thought about it a bit more I dont think I did
 
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