"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Did I Handle This Correctly: GF needed ride home, was considering a boy

Colinski282

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Okay so a little info before the convo. I have work today and my GF locked herself out of her house. So now she needs a ride home from school.

Me: So whos bringing you home?

Her: I have no idea, Ill find someone.

Me: Better not be no boy.

Her: Babe if i need a ride...

Me: Ill be pissed

Her: Im not riding the fuking bus

Me: There are girls, alot of em. Find One.

Her: No girls live near me

Me: O I think a girl from work needs a ride home.

Her: **** you Colin thats Bull****

Me: No what your telling me is bull****. I kno for a fact that u know a girl that would be nice enough to take u home. Find One, its not that hard.

Her:Colin Ima find a girl, I was just sayin

Convo Done

Okay so what i do know that after she gets home she will have to wait an hour for her mom to get home. I know if a boy brings her home he will see this and chill with her for that hour. My girl is hott and thats an open shot to any guy looking for an oppurtunity. He would already have the wrong idea about her riding home with her. Should I let her know about this part?

Did i leave anyhting out? Any Tips?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Colinski282

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I do aplogize but this is not a HS situation. I am far from HS and this is a real issue
 

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i disagree shez, he was completely out of line, insecure, immature AFC.

its one thing to be protective, its another thing to be so blatantly insecure and controlling.

I am sure that unless he locks his girlfriend in the kitchen, she is going to have a lot of interactions with males. Being unsecure about it is a sure way to fall into the abyss of the AFC-ness.

Being protective is one thing, being jealous is another. Don't confuse the two. By demonstrating his unsecure jealousy, he is creating a very bad reality for himself and his girl. He is decreasing his value, and creating a "forbidden fruit" for his girl in her interaction with guys. Next time she is talking to a cute guy, you bet she is going to be thinking "haha, i am such a devious chick, i love being a bad girl"


Remember kids, in LTR - always playful, secure, alpha, always in control of that ass. She's your b!tch after all.
 

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Colinski282 said:
.......So now she needs a ride home from school.
Her: Im not riding the fuking bus.......
You're not in high school huh? Who rides the fukking bus home from college?
Dumbass....
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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The Juan and only

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speedo_meme said:
You're not in high school huh? Who rides the fukking bus home from college?
Dumbass....

People who care about the environment, jackass. nah just kidding...:whistle:

these lazy women who think they don't need a car (or a driving license) because they can always manipulate some guy into taking them places need to improve their attitude.
 

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speedo_meme said:
You're not in high school huh? Who rides the fukking bus home from college?
Dumbass....
1:30 long bus ride... hmmm..

I had to consider $15 to drive, or 50cents to take the bus... damn, tough choice
 

speedo_meme

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Who said anything about a 1:30 long ride? I don't see it. And he says she has to wait for her mom to get home. Sounds like high school to me.

Ethno, speak when spoken to, boy.
 

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You soud like an insecure b1tch. You can't forbid her from interacting with the entire male half of the population, and you're going to push her away doing this crap.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Speedo_meme: Lots of people take the bus when they're in college. It depends on the city you're in. I went to undergrad in Austin and there were VERY few people who didn't take the bus home.

Colinski: You sound like a girl. If you can't trust this girl to take a ride with someone to get home, why do you trust her to be your girlfriend? You were being insecure and it was very unbecoming.
 

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Call a friend to try to get her a ride home. I wouldn't want my girlfriend getting a ride home from stranger either. And not because he might pick her up, but because there are a lot of crazy people out there.
 

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Colinski282 said:
I am far from HS and this is a real issue
Coulda fooled me. You sound about like your average whiney HS kid. I could have sworn that most grown-ups have gotten over the stupid insecurity of their girls driving around with "boys". :rolleyes:

To answer your specific question, you handled it like a child.
 

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You are a complete idiot. Thats a great way to get your sorry ass dumped. Comon you don't trust her enough to take a ride with a guy or else she will hook up with him? If you can't trust her you shouldn't be with her in the first place. She prob resents you for not trusting her and acting like an insecure needy *****. If you played it cool and said "sure hun, just be careful" she would think that you were a good guy who trusted her and cared for her. Now she just thinks you are a jerk. BRAVO
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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if you aren't in a positition to give your GF a ride home, shut the **** up and let her catch a fvcking ride. you have no room to arguement.

If I didn't want me GF riding home from work with a guy at work or wherever the **** she was, I would come and pick her up.. otherwise, It doesn't matter if Iceberg Slim took her home, I can't say ****
 

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Yeah I'm afraid what you said to your GF reeked of immaturity and insecurity.

Its understandable that you don't want her getting a lift home with strange guys, especially if she's hot. But telling her that really isnt the right way to go about it.. her respect for you is gonna go down because she sees that your insecure and worried about her finding someone 'better'.

The best way to handle situations like this is act like you are OK with it (even if your not). This way the girl will view you as a confident person who doesn't get jealous and isn't desperately worried about her finding someone better (cos after all, your the BEST, right?!)

Anyways if you guys think THIS is pathetic, check this out. A girl at my work has a BF who won't allow her to even TALK to other men. Every day at breaktime she speaks to him on the phone, but if me or another guy goes to say hello to her she's like 'SSSSsssshhhh!' frantically waving her hands.

Apparently he is convinced she works in an all-female office, and she has told him 'if any man did join, she would either ignore him or leave'. And the worst part? She's about an HB5-6 in my book.

I mean, FFS......
 

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hahah i thought this was a joke thread until i read the replys :down:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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