Fireballs said:
From the limited information here, I would not contact her again. Ever. Also remember before you hit that send button on your phone, sleep on it. You will be glad in the morning that you didn't send what you were going to send. Some people may think this is stupid but another thing I do is ask myself ''What would James Bond/George Clooney do here?'' I find it helps alot when your emotions are trying to take over.
The question you should be asking yourself is ''What did I do during the relationship to make her interest level drop so much?''
Did you fail too many sh!t tests, become needy, insecure, jealous?
Keeping a girl is constant work and women are so self destructive in relationships that it can be hard to not beta backslide. They are always trying to turn you into a qualifying beta and try to turn you into a needy little b!tch so that they can get more of your attention, even though that also decreases their attraction for you.
I agree about sleeping on a text before you send it. The only thing is it has been almost a month of her flaking and breaking contact. Yet I would see her in person occasionally and she would walk up and hug me and wave to me when she sees me driving etc. And also plan hang outs but totally ignore when the time came. Basically at this point my blood was boiling from all the cumulative flakes, and I thought calling her out on it would make me feel better, because the first few times she flaked I played it cool and acted friendly. It didn't help and only made it worse. It's grade A cringe material in the memory bank now. Oh well.
Imagine a giant disco ball shattered in a hundred pieces. It's all but worthless, unless you still have all the pieces and are an absolute expert at putting it back together, I suppose it may be salvageable or at least respectable. However after that last text, it was like grinding the disco ball into pixie dust, followed by getting a leaf blower and blowing the microscopic pieces into a giant ocean, and then trying to re-create the disco ball by getting the individual specks out and putting it back together with scotch tape. That's basically where I'm at right now.
I regret it but I probably wouldn't have learned had I not done it. I thought it would help me move on. Instead all it does is
force me to move on, big difference. Because until this point she thought I was still cool with her, still being the nice guy, etc. It sucks cuz I kinda liked her as a friend too but now the last thing she'll remember me as was the dude who flipped out and was overly sensitive to her flaking on me. I know she checks my fb even though we're not friends (or has), so I could try that way...but as of now I deleted her name and number from my phone and don't have any plans or anything left to say to her. It sucks but I suppose it's too late for redemption now. :|
