"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Did I do well here, I kept frame

Stephen89

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I'm temp working before I go into self employment.

I work with the public.

There was a 10/10 lady in her mid to late 20s, very attractive, well dressed.

I had to 'hold the public up'

This lady was then first in line and I had to hold the public up with others coming, waiting behind her.

She looked and ask me "can you do this, I've got to go"

I just said confidently "you've got to wait like the rest of them, it would be un fair on others, it's literally four minutes". I held frame and when she was standing next to me, I held frame, I wasn't even looking at her, I was looking at the other things.

I can also say, all the workers were looking at her.

I say this, it's easy to feel nervous and suck up to an attractive women, look at her, become nervous etc, as I have seen older men suck up to attractive women and do things for them.

I think for me, I'm well on my way to maybe being a man women may desire, find attractive and of course with a lot of inner, psychological work too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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