"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Did I do the right thing?

rapsta

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My girlfriend was out friday night. She met a guy. They talked. He asked her if she had a bf, she told him no.
Then she was flirting some more.
I asked her, what did u think? she responded that she didn't think of me that much.
She convinced me that all they did was TALK, but she still thought of it as cheating, so she felt bad and sorry for it. And she regret it.


So i told her she will get ONE chance.. and if she ever lie to me again, she can forget about me, it's over.
But still.. later on that evening after we spoke.. I called her on her cellphone and told her "there is no chance... i regret what i said.. it's over"
and I waited for a second, she was all silent.
Then i sent her an SMS.. "and dont EVER call me again please"

Now she didn't basically cheat, but she told me he treated her like a princess, he gave her his jacket in the cold even though he was sick ec etc.
It was cheating because she wanted to get with him in the future.

Or was it not? I thought it was real fake/slvtty of her.. did I do the right thing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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biker_gixxer

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No, it wasn't the right thing to do, you should have told her it was over the second she told you. I can't believe you even 'thought' about giving her another chance bro.

My girlfriend was out friday night. She met a guy. They talked. He asked her if she had a bf, she told him no.

That's nothing less then a mental slap to the face.
 

Spookey

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regardless, you ended it, so what are you worry about. you are now free.
get out there and enjoy that freedom, find another chick, there are plenty out there.
quit worrying about regrets and be sure in yourself and be confident you made the right decision
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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