"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did I do the right thing breaking it off with this girl over text?

gimmeyofonenumba

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After noticing a few red flags and low interest on her part I decided to go radio silence, didnt really think about her for a few days,she starts hitting me up with texts. We end up hanging out again per her invite, and she was just disrespectful while we were hanging out with a group of friends, and it was just a terrible evening, she did mention hanging out later. I offerred her to come by the next night which she didnt answer, but started texting me random pics of stuff(to get attention?) I call her out on her disrespect. She apologizes. Next day does something similar,and I finally just send her a text nicely stating we need to go our own seperate ways. Was this the correct thing? I feel frickin great, i feel like we couldve worked things out, but I have a life to live and cannot waste it with someone just being immature and disrespectful
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SmooveMooves

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Sure. you weren't feeling her, she was a b1tch, you broke it off. Good move, respect.

3 thumbs up, unicorns and rainbows now.

Personally, when I want to break up though, I just disappear.

Turn into casper. The woman gos crazy cause' she never gets closure.

No text

No call

No Facebook

Nada, I disappear off the face of her planet.

Her hamster self-destructs.
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
I call her out on her disrespect. She apologizes. Next day does something similar,and I finally just send her a text nicely stating we need to go our own seperate ways. Was this the correct thing? I feel frickin great, i feel like we couldve worked things out, but I have a life to live and cannot waste it with someone just being immature and disrespectful
:) :up: :) :D :up:
 

TheCWord

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I agree with Mr. Mooves. But what were you doing here?

gimmeyofonenumba said:
After noticing a few red flags and low interest
gimmeyofonenumba said:
We end up hanging out again per her invite, and she was just disrespectful while we were hanging out with a group of friends, and it was just a terrible evening
gimmeyofonenumba said:
I offerred her to come by the next night
WTF? A girl who you had previously identified as low interest with red flags then disrespected you in front of other people and you agree to see her again? No wonder she didn't reply and just kept on with that pic texting stuff.

Good for you for ultimately breaking things off but, in the interest of bettering yourself, you've got to plug a couple holes in your game: 1. Trust your first instinct and cut bait when your spidey sense is tingling. 2. Resist the urge to have the last word. Go ghost like Mooves said.
 

abe0

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A woman who is disrespectful and plays games like that is not worthy of you calling her or seeing her to break up. You did fine. Abe
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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