"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Did I do the right thing? And what to say next?

eaglez1177

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Situation:

1. About a month ago I was at the fireworks with this chick, wasnt sure if she was into me, but didnt see her again till this past saturday when we were both drunk and hooked up (even when she sobered up im almost positive she was still def into me).

2. On that same saturday, before I hung out with that chick, I fvcked my ex-gf (also my f buddy), without knowing I was even going to be seeing the fireworks chick later.

3. Today at school, two of that chick's friends came to me and say "Did you hang out with Lauren this weekend?" I said, "Idk why", and they said, "Oh cuz we heard from someone that you did. (keep in mind they dont know I fvcked her, just that we hung out.

4. They found out from a close friend who checked my ex-gf's text messages and saw me in them.

The decision I made: I decided to be up front and honest with the fireworks chick. I figured she would find out eventually that I hung out with my ex gf that one saturday, and I figured that if she found out from someone else, she may get the wrong impression or just be mad that I never said anything and lied to her (cuz I told her and all her friends that my ex and I didnt hang out much and only talked every now and then).

Her response: She was pretty cool about it and said that she didnt really care that I hung out with my ex. She seemed to be okay with it, but I just wanted to show her that I was honest and sh*t. When I mentioned to her that I wanted to hang out with her again this weekend, and be sober so that I could get to know her better, she said she wanted to. The only definite bad part about the whole thing was that when I said goodbye (we were in the car), I gave her like a peck kiss on half of her lips. It was mad awkward, and I dont think she had intentions of kissing me.

Heres the big question:

What the fvck do I say to my ex gf now? Shes annoyed cuz shes getting the impression that im never gonna hang out with her again all cuz of someone reading her texts (and i think she may have an idea that I like this fireworks chick). The big problem is that I dont want to piss her off, cuz then she may say more sh*t in her anger and tell her friends that we didnt just "hang out" but that we "fvcked". If this fireworks chick found out that i fvcked my ex gf, I think my chances with her would be done.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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eaglez1177

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Come on guys i gotta say somethin to my ex by the end of the night otherwise im worried she may try to fvck me over
 

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Umm... girls usually love drama,especially from exes,lol.

For what I can see, only your ex will be the enemy in the eyes of the fireworks chick
 

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Ok well the most important thing is going on damage control right now and figuring out what the hell to say to my ex...i dont hav alot of time
 

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eaglez1177 said:
Situation:

1. About a month ago I was at the fireworks with this chick, wasnt sure if she was into me, but didnt see her again till this past saturday when we were both drunk and hooked up (even when she sobered up im almost positive she was still def into me).

2. On that same saturday, before I hung out with that chick, I fvcked my ex-gf (also my f buddy), without knowing I was even going to be seeing the fireworks chick later.

3. Today at school, two of that chick's friends came to me and say "Did you hang out with Lauren this weekend?" I said, "Idk why", and they said, "Oh cuz we heard from someone that you did. (keep in mind they dont know I fvcked her, just that we hung out.

4. They found out from a close friend who checked my ex-gf's text messages and saw me in them.

The decision I made: I decided to be up front and honest with the fireworks chick. I figured she would find out eventually that I hung out with my ex gf that one saturday, and I figured that if she found out from someone else, she may get the wrong impression or just be mad that I never said anything and lied to her (cuz I told her and all her friends that my ex and I didnt hang out much and only talked every now and then).

Her response: She was pretty cool about it and said that she didnt really care that I hung out with my ex. She seemed to be okay with it, but I just wanted to show her that I was honest and sh*t. When I mentioned to her that I wanted to hang out with her again this weekend, and be sober so that I could get to know her better, she said she wanted to. The only definite bad part about the whole thing was that when I said goodbye (we were in the car), I gave her like a peck kiss on half of her lips. It was mad awkward, and I dont think she had intentions of kissing me.

Heres the big question:

What the fvck do I say to my ex gf now? Shes annoyed cuz shes getting the impression that im never gonna hang out with her again all cuz of someone reading her texts (and i think she may have an idea that I like this fireworks chick). The big problem is that I dont want to piss her off, cuz then she may say more sh*t in her anger and tell her friends that we didnt just "hang out" but that we "fvcked". If this fireworks chick found out that i fvcked my ex gf, I think my chances with her would be done.
you should tell your ex..thqat you really like this other chick and that unitl your married to her you can still ****..and for her to not **** this up for you cause its important..something along those lines
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you are doin fine. stop worrying, and start (keep) bangin them both. these things have a way of working themselves out.

confusious say: "never worry about getting the hook out of the fishes mouth, UNTIL fish is in the boat".

translated: dont overthink situations that are 3 steps ahead of you
 

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Well for one, theres no way im gonna be able to continue banging my ex and trying to get with this fireworks chick at the same time. There are a few girls that are good friends with the friends of my ex and the friends of the fireworks girls, so sh*t would definitely get back to her. Not only that, but we all go to the same school and have classes together.

I just gotta wait it out now for this fireworks chick to text me eventually, and hopefully I didnt fvck things up with her.
 
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