Hi all
Few months ago I met a girl from who I found out she was into me. Went on a date and asked her out again a few times after that. Unfortunately she always had something to do, I know the reason wasn't because of me. Or it was, but it doesn't matter as you will read in the next few paragraphs.
But one time after I asked her out and she cancelled again, I got tired of it and simply ignored her by just answering as short as possible when she was asking or telling something. When I got home from work that evening (we worked together at a local sandwich bar form time to time), I got a message from her "Is something wrong, you were so silent? Is it because I cancelled all these times?". But instead of being honest, I replied it was something else (when in fact it was indeed that). The day after that, I started to feel sorry I was acting that way and just made something up of what could be wrong and told her that.
After that, the contact between us deteriorated. Heard basically nothing for 2-3 weeks, but then we saw each other at a party and started to talk again. The days after that she started asking "can we watch a movie at your home". But again, this didn't go through. We kept talking and eventually went on a trip together to Egypt for a week (yes, this went through!). During that trip, I started to feel nervous. What should I say so she would like me, if I do this maybe she thinks I'm weird, I have to make this trip fun,… so basically I wasn't myself and there was a constant tension between us. We got home and I decided it was best not to talk to each other for a while.
But that's that, I learned from this experience I should always be myself and not worry about what other people think of me. The question I have is, for further experiences, what did I do right?
Was I right to have my answers as short as possible because she always cancelled our dates? I'm asking this, because I always have a similar feeling when I meet new girls. I 'ignore' her to see how she acts, seeks my attention and asks why I'm so quiet. But I guess this isn't right? The feeling I had with this girl when I ignored her, was a mix of both. I was mad because she cancelled, but in the meantime sought confirmation if she still liked me.
Thanks!
Few months ago I met a girl from who I found out she was into me. Went on a date and asked her out again a few times after that. Unfortunately she always had something to do, I know the reason wasn't because of me. Or it was, but it doesn't matter as you will read in the next few paragraphs.
But one time after I asked her out and she cancelled again, I got tired of it and simply ignored her by just answering as short as possible when she was asking or telling something. When I got home from work that evening (we worked together at a local sandwich bar form time to time), I got a message from her "Is something wrong, you were so silent? Is it because I cancelled all these times?". But instead of being honest, I replied it was something else (when in fact it was indeed that). The day after that, I started to feel sorry I was acting that way and just made something up of what could be wrong and told her that.
After that, the contact between us deteriorated. Heard basically nothing for 2-3 weeks, but then we saw each other at a party and started to talk again. The days after that she started asking "can we watch a movie at your home". But again, this didn't go through. We kept talking and eventually went on a trip together to Egypt for a week (yes, this went through!). During that trip, I started to feel nervous. What should I say so she would like me, if I do this maybe she thinks I'm weird, I have to make this trip fun,… so basically I wasn't myself and there was a constant tension between us. We got home and I decided it was best not to talk to each other for a while.
But that's that, I learned from this experience I should always be myself and not worry about what other people think of me. The question I have is, for further experiences, what did I do right?
Was I right to have my answers as short as possible because she always cancelled our dates? I'm asking this, because I always have a similar feeling when I meet new girls. I 'ignore' her to see how she acts, seeks my attention and asks why I'm so quiet. But I guess this isn't right? The feeling I had with this girl when I ignored her, was a mix of both. I was mad because she cancelled, but in the meantime sought confirmation if she still liked me.
Thanks!
