Did i become numb or lost feelings at all?

zorg198

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Hello Guys,

Since i entered to NC with my ex i started dating a chick for one month.

Its fun with her but i don't feel anything and really don't care about her.
She get frustrated i won't commit only to her and she keeps asking where are we. sometimes she cries about stupid things and i just want her to leave me alone. we not even communicating on the whatsapp like old time because i don't feel it. to tell the truth she's not doing it to me ,i don't feel excited.

I realize now how my ex felt about me , now i totally understand the situation she was , but! unlike her i don't want to hurt this girl. i like to keep her as a fvck buddy but she's too serious and want's to get into relationship. is it me that i became a robot or its the girl?

Joe.
 

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This is a tough one. Like you said OP women hurt men..... like it's no different than the daily routine of taking a pee. But we as men of strong moral character generally don't want to hurt a woman if she hasn't done anything to us to make her deserve it.

I would say this: call her on the phone or meet up with her somewhere and tell her "You know you are a really great person and I have had a blast hanging out with you. (List/reflect on a few good moments you guys had). But after giving it long hours of thought, I do not see us as a good long term fit. This doesn't come easy for me but it's the right thing to be honest with you. I don't play games with peoples' emotions like a lot of folks do. " If you want you could also tell her you met someone else. That may get her to the anger stage and over you quicker.
 

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If you see she wants more then stop this. Don't hurt her. There are enough girls out there ready to be f*** buddy so find one.
 

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zorg198 said:
unlike her i don't want to hurt this girl. i like to keep her as a fvck buddy [...]
Degrading her to that honorable status will hurt her more than anything else.
 

zorg198

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Its not that i don't like her its something inside.
She's not doing it to me , horrible ? no. i'm honest.

Joe.
 
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