"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did anyone else have natural game when younger and had to re-learn it?

Medina

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That was partly my reasons for joining the forum personally

Brushing up on a few mistakes I've picked up as I've gotten older

Looking back to when I was 19, 20, 21 etc there were no problems

But in my late 20's I kept making mistakes

But now I feel back on course again, I even got married 6 months ago

Stay in the game. That is my mission here
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I have always been very outgoing with a fun, positive and desirable personality.

I had to go through 2 bad breakups (one marriage and one engagement) to really hone my skills with women.

I find its not so much what you say but what you dont say, how you look at a woman and how you seduce her that matters.

The rest of it is nothing more than developing a friendship with a woman.

Most guys think they have to warm a woman up to them and build lots of rapport. I find the opposite works best.

I seduce them, bang them and they if they still have my interest to go deeper I will develop a friendship at a very slow pace. Hell I leave that part up to the woman tbh. My job is to get her out, seduce and repeat. She can focus on the rest. I dont have time.
 

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When I was younger I definitely had lots of natural game, but the confidence came more from ignorance. When I got older my life didn't go as I thought it would, which threw my game off. Throw in a couple bad breakups and I was a mess. Reading stuff here has helped me remember my frame. It's more of a jump start since when I'm on point in my life a woman can't do a single thing to throw me off center and being masculine in relationships comes naturally as opposed to something I have to actively study.
 

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Society is structured so that men, overtime, lose their edge.
  • Naturally loud and energetic = trouble in school. Here have some Ritalin.
  • The entertainment we consume all tells you that the happy ending is getting the girl (often through grand romantic acts and a ton of sacrifice).
  • Spend 5 minutes on social media or one of the content farm sites, and you’ll be exposed to male shaming for men who don’t commit or make X amount of money, or aren’t otherwise domestic.
  • Entertainment is cheap, omnipresent, and isolating.
  • Work is in front of a computer screen. As your friends start isolating themselves behind monogamy & monitors, your social interactions dwindle. Your skills atrophy: your default becomes our of state.
Very few guys, even the ‘naturals’ will be able to fully hold their frame throughout all of this. It really takes getting knocked off the treadmill and some lucky Google searches to be able to solidify your frame and actively resist these influences. If you’re reading this thread, you’re super lucky.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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