"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well I just got out of a 14 month relationship. I'm currently a junior in high school and I need to get back in the game. I was really into all the PUA stiff before the relationship but I fell in lie and lost all that :/ so it's basically like in starting all over again. I'm currently a junior in high school, I'm not the most popular kid in the school but my rep isn't that bad. Most people know/like me I'm generally a fun person to be around. Well I'm gonna be keeping this journal to keep motivated to get back in the game. And hopefully you guys will make my progression a much easier experience :)
Well I guess tomorrow will be my day 1
Here's some backstory; there is this girl in my math class lets call her HBmarissa (she's a solid 9) and while we aren't "friends" we are friendly to each other and have some mutual friends, I have we number as we have went to a few parties together (not like together just us 2 but with a group of friends) and I'd like to pursue her, while not getting oneitis.
She always flirts with me and I flirt back but I've never really texted her or anything other then just relaying info on parties or hw and stuff.

I'd like to start pursuing her and any tips would be great

Also, I'm going to start pursuing this cute Asian girl with a nice fat ass (HBPaige she's like an 8 I'd say) and I always openly flirt with her and tease her. I think getting her in bed is just a matter of time, but she could just be playing along with me. I'll keep u updated and any advice here would be great

Also this Saturday I plan on going to the mall with my homie to go sarging to get the juices flowing aha. Again, any tips appreciated.

Tomorrow I'll call day 1, wish me luck!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh and sorry for all the grammar errors and stuff as I'm doing this all from my iPhone
 

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Oh and if u wanna see how I look so u can judge advice of whatever look me up on instagram @kre8ivestyleoflife
 

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You use the words "start pursuing."

How about I simplify the whole process for you. Try to set up a date with Marissa. Try to set up a date with Paige. Make sure each one knows its a date before going with you, and then make sure you try for a kiss on the date.

If it doesn't work out, they shift down to friends and you can look for new options.

If it does work out, you get a little free sex and practice while you look for new options.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
You use the words "start pursuing."

How about I simplify the whole process for you. Try to set up a date with Marissa. Try to set up a date with Paige. Make sure each one knows its a date before going with you, and then make sure you try for a kiss on the date.

If it doesn't work out, they shift down to friends and you can look for new options.

If it does work out, you get a little free sex and practice while you look for new options.
Well what I was planning to do was build some rapport with both of them
First before asking them out? Should I just go in cold?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I would ask them out by the end of the first "rapport building" conversation. Yeah, it's okay to lead in to the date invite with a little bit of talking, but make sure you invite her out, and don't take too long to do it.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
I would ask them out by the end of the first "rapport building" conversation. Yeah, it's okay to lead in to the date invite with a little bit of talking, but make sure you invite her out, and don't take too long to do it.
How would you go about doing this?
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
Naaah dude, there's not much of a rush. Just do it sooner or later.
Would doing something small on a weekday like Starbucks or something work for slippin a bit of rapport in there?
 

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Day 1: woke up, took my dog for a walk then went to school like normally. HBpaige in my first period. After class I walked her to her next class and kino'd the shizzz outta her. Focused on making eye contact and smiling at every girl I passed by. Day went pretty normally. Ran into HBMarissa and kino'd. I guess my friend ran in to her at the gym and he texted me and here's the convo
Nick: guess whos working out right next to me
Me: who?
Nick: guess
Me: uh marissa?
Nick: yah aha
Me: Bruh she is soo bad!!! :O
Nick: she hella bad in her workout clothes aha, she said we are workout buddies lol
Me: Ni**a put me on!
Nick: alright I got you lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Then a few hours later I texted him
Me: so?
Nick: oh yah lol so here's what happened. We were on the treadmill and talking and I was like "you know my nig*a Logan right? And she's like "yah why?" so I said "he's a pretty cool dude, you should get at him" then she smiled hella and was like "haha he's cute, doesn't he have a girlfriend?" and I was like NoPe!!! The she said "hahaha maybe we'll see"

Lookin good for me lol? I was planning to ask her to hang out this weekend either tomorrow or Friday. Tips? Advice?
 

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Sure its looking good for you. Just dont waste time. Since she's thinking about you right now, show her that you take what you want and ask her out.

You can read in my journal why my advice is usually "Get the date. Get the kiss."

Thats whats given me the most success. Long game hasn't worked out for me. I think you're right to ask her out for this weekend.
 

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Day 2: woke up feeling pretty confident, prob gonna ball up and ask Marissa out today :) wish me luck! Oh and any advice would be cool too
 

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Ask her out man you won't regret it. You thought about what you're gonna do though? Probably best before you set a date
 

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Nick1886 said:
Ask her out man you won't regret it. You thought about what you're gonna do though? Probably best before you set a date
Well after our last class I always walk with her to the parking lot so I was thinking just dropping out "what're you found this weekend? We should hang out on Saturday."
Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I meant fix something a bit more definite than 'hang out' whether its the movies, the park, lunch etc. but it's down to you really - im big on preparation but obviously not everyone approaches dates that way
 

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Nick1886 said:
I meant fix something a bit more definite than 'hang out' whether its the movies, the park, lunch etc. but it's down to you really - im big on preparation but obviously not everyone approaches dates that way
Hmm... I've been told movies aren't a good first date spot? Got any suggestions?
 

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Day 3: well my plans didn't work like I wanted them to lol. My dad picked me and my Lil bro up early from school to hang out since he was off work. It was fun but no progression ladies-wise. Anyways, I was texting my friend Ariana (who is very close friends with Marissa) and I told her to put me on aha. I told her to just sneak in a good word for me. Should be good :)
Hopefully i can ask marissa out tomorrow.
 

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Day 4: right as 6th period got out I asked marissa out tomorrow and she said sure! :D not gonna lie this is one of the hottest girls I've talked to. I'll text her around 7 tonight but I need some good first date ideas please :) help me out DJs!
 

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Don't go anywhere there's a table between you. Anything works where you're walking around together (malls, parks, carnivals, art fairs) cause that means you can touch her and find a private place to kiss her. A party or rave would work, but watch out for another guy stealing her.

MAKE SURE YOU KISS HER ON THE DATE. YOU HAVE TO.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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