"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Well I just got out of a 14 month relationship. I'm currently a junior in high school and I need to get back in the game. I was really into all the PUA stiff before the relationship but I fell in lie and lost all that :/ so it's basically like in starting all over again. I'm currently a junior in high school, I'm not the most popular kid in the school but my rep isn't that bad. Most people know/like me I'm generally a fun person to be around. Well I'm gonna be keeping this journal to keep motivated to get back in the game. And hopefully you guys will make my progression a much easier experience :)
Well I guess tomorrow will be my day 1
Here's some backstory; there is this girl in my math class lets call her HBmarissa (she's a solid 9) and while we aren't "friends" we are friendly to each other and have some mutual friends, I have we number as we have went to a few parties together (not like together just us 2 but with a group of friends) and I'd like to pursue her, while not getting oneitis.
She always flirts with me and I flirt back but I've never really texted her or anything other then just relaying info on parties or hw and stuff.

I'd like to start pursuing her and any tips would be great

Also, I'm going to start pursuing this cute Asian girl with a nice fat ass (HBPaige she's like an 8 I'd say) and I always openly flirt with her and tease her. I think getting her in bed is just a matter of time, but she could just be playing along with me. I'll keep u updated and any advice here would be great

Also this Saturday I plan on going to the mall with my homie to go sarging to get the juices flowing aha. Again, any tips appreciated.

Tomorrow I'll call day 1, wish me luck!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Oh and sorry for all the grammar errors and stuff as I'm doing this all from my iPhone
 

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Oh and if u wanna see how I look so u can judge advice of whatever look me up on instagram @kre8ivestyleoflife
 

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You use the words "start pursuing."

How about I simplify the whole process for you. Try to set up a date with Marissa. Try to set up a date with Paige. Make sure each one knows its a date before going with you, and then make sure you try for a kiss on the date.

If it doesn't work out, they shift down to friends and you can look for new options.

If it does work out, you get a little free sex and practice while you look for new options.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
You use the words "start pursuing."

How about I simplify the whole process for you. Try to set up a date with Marissa. Try to set up a date with Paige. Make sure each one knows its a date before going with you, and then make sure you try for a kiss on the date.

If it doesn't work out, they shift down to friends and you can look for new options.

If it does work out, you get a little free sex and practice while you look for new options.
Well what I was planning to do was build some rapport with both of them
First before asking them out? Should I just go in cold?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would ask them out by the end of the first "rapport building" conversation. Yeah, it's okay to lead in to the date invite with a little bit of talking, but make sure you invite her out, and don't take too long to do it.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
I would ask them out by the end of the first "rapport building" conversation. Yeah, it's okay to lead in to the date invite with a little bit of talking, but make sure you invite her out, and don't take too long to do it.
How would you go about doing this?
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
Naaah dude, there's not much of a rush. Just do it sooner or later.
Would doing something small on a weekday like Starbucks or something work for slippin a bit of rapport in there?
 

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Day 1: woke up, took my dog for a walk then went to school like normally. HBpaige in my first period. After class I walked her to her next class and kino'd the shizzz outta her. Focused on making eye contact and smiling at every girl I passed by. Day went pretty normally. Ran into HBMarissa and kino'd. I guess my friend ran in to her at the gym and he texted me and here's the convo
Nick: guess whos working out right next to me
Me: who?
Nick: guess
Me: uh marissa?
Nick: yah aha
Me: Bruh she is soo bad!!! :O
Nick: she hella bad in her workout clothes aha, she said we are workout buddies lol
Me: Ni**a put me on!
Nick: alright I got you lol
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Then a few hours later I texted him
Me: so?
Nick: oh yah lol so here's what happened. We were on the treadmill and talking and I was like "you know my nig*a Logan right? And she's like "yah why?" so I said "he's a pretty cool dude, you should get at him" then she smiled hella and was like "haha he's cute, doesn't he have a girlfriend?" and I was like NoPe!!! The she said "hahaha maybe we'll see"

Lookin good for me lol? I was planning to ask her to hang out this weekend either tomorrow or Friday. Tips? Advice?
 

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Sure its looking good for you. Just dont waste time. Since she's thinking about you right now, show her that you take what you want and ask her out.

You can read in my journal why my advice is usually "Get the date. Get the kiss."

Thats whats given me the most success. Long game hasn't worked out for me. I think you're right to ask her out for this weekend.
 

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Day 2: woke up feeling pretty confident, prob gonna ball up and ask Marissa out today :) wish me luck! Oh and any advice would be cool too
 

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Ask her out man you won't regret it. You thought about what you're gonna do though? Probably best before you set a date
 

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Nick1886 said:
Ask her out man you won't regret it. You thought about what you're gonna do though? Probably best before you set a date
Well after our last class I always walk with her to the parking lot so I was thinking just dropping out "what're you found this weekend? We should hang out on Saturday."
Thoughts?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I meant fix something a bit more definite than 'hang out' whether its the movies, the park, lunch etc. but it's down to you really - im big on preparation but obviously not everyone approaches dates that way
 

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Nick1886 said:
I meant fix something a bit more definite than 'hang out' whether its the movies, the park, lunch etc. but it's down to you really - im big on preparation but obviously not everyone approaches dates that way
Hmm... I've been told movies aren't a good first date spot? Got any suggestions?
 

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Day 3: well my plans didn't work like I wanted them to lol. My dad picked me and my Lil bro up early from school to hang out since he was off work. It was fun but no progression ladies-wise. Anyways, I was texting my friend Ariana (who is very close friends with Marissa) and I told her to put me on aha. I told her to just sneak in a good word for me. Should be good :)
Hopefully i can ask marissa out tomorrow.
 

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Day 4: right as 6th period got out I asked marissa out tomorrow and she said sure! :D not gonna lie this is one of the hottest girls I've talked to. I'll text her around 7 tonight but I need some good first date ideas please :) help me out DJs!
 

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Don't go anywhere there's a table between you. Anything works where you're walking around together (malls, parks, carnivals, art fairs) cause that means you can touch her and find a private place to kiss her. A party or rave would work, but watch out for another guy stealing her.

MAKE SURE YOU KISS HER ON THE DATE. YOU HAVE TO.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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