"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Develop and Model an Abundance Mindset

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When I find myself slipping, often go back to this mindset (not frame). Find it always helps.


If you adopt this mindset, daily things won’t affect you because you are always focused on the “big picture”.

Watch yourself men, and be strong. :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Affirmations don't work. They never will because the same thoughts that are causing OP to sleep disguise and come in through the back door.
Action over affirmations and self talk. Abundance mindset only comes through results and action. Not mental talk.

Anything with a set steps to success or 6 this to that. RUN.
You are in a war not a negotiating committee.
I agree that simple affirmations are ineffective, it's just another way to cover up the problem. I disagree that just taking action (by going out there and hitting on women) is the whole solution, guys will take actions, have a lot of trouble getting positive results and it becomes yet another way to cover up the problem.

What's the problem? The problem is how a guy ended up like they did, to identify exactly what went wrong. Guys aren't born with a scarcity mindset, we get that from negative life experiences. If we don't identify and address the root of our personal issues it will continue running the show from the background.

I do agree that "follow these X steps to success" articles are very oversimplified, but they're not wrong. It's just that a guy needs to go a lot deeper first before those articles makes sense or are remotely helpful.
 

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Affirmations don't work. They never will because the same thoughts that are causing OP to sleep disguise and come in through the back door.
Action over affirmations and self talk. Abundance mindset only comes through results and action. Not mental talk.

Anything with a set steps to success or 6 this to that. RUN.
You are in a war not a negotiating committee.
Affirmation followed by action
 
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