"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is just for a friend of mine, I don't have all the details. Maybe why I can't give him advice but i thought i'd give you guys a shot.

Right, he's been going out with this girl for about 5 or 6 months i think (His choice i wouldn't lol) anyway they always been going real well together, but lately they been having these kind of arguments or whatever it kind of looks like she doesn't like him as much anymore but every time these little arguments ends he asks and she says she loves him heaps, most important person in her life you know that kind of stuff but then the next day they have another one of those kind of arguments then I love you, don't ever leave me she says afterwards. I guess they just haven't really been getting along, they txt and talk on MSN a lot because she lives kind of far away but anyway it looks like she doesn't like him anymore but she says she does. She is kind of real vague now when they txt or msn like reply that just say ok or guttered or something along those lines.

I said just next her but he won't and I'm just trying to help a brother out so what do you guys think??
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I say he should tell her these arguements are getting on his nerves and that he feels like it isn't working. If she still likes him, she'll try to stop him. If she doesn't, well... problem solved.
 

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He's stuck in his AFC oneitis ways for now.

All you can do after a buddy rejects your offer at help is to let things fall to sh!t for him and if he ever wises up and asks for your council after that then you can give it to him.

Right now he is a lost cause because he thinks she is the one for him and he likely has no other options so he is afraid of letting her go.

That fear and his inexperience will prevent him from doing the right thing and nexting her.
 

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Yeah, guess you can't help everybody.

Talking to him on the phone now lol, apparently she just said that she's acting the same and it's him that has a problem with her, looks like its crashing lol
 

jeffthechef

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kontroller is right about your friend not making the right decision...he's inexperienced and he won't

my friend is the same way...i tell him all about this ****...and tell him and explain ****...but then he gets defensive and CLAIMS...claims that he has tried it and it doesnt work...some people just wont change until they get ****ed over...

as for your friend...she probably is losing interest...sounds like he doesnt know about any of this stuff...if he is a full/half/slight afc...tell him to put his foot down...and **** out...perhaps she wants him to be more of a man...either way, is it worth the effort? perhaps he should go play the field a little
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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