desperation

[Serpentor]

ok, I wish I knew about this website before, or I wouldnt' have ended up in this situation....
Can someone tell me what to do here?

OK, I've never had trouble getting girls, but this one is driving me crazy! I've "gone out" with her for about a few months, and I think I've really fallen for her. I think she's really THE ONE..she's gorgeous, have allthe same interests as me, fun to be with, gets along great with my friends, and has ALOT more money then me (which is very rare). the problem is, every time we "go out" it has not been intimate and believe me, I've tried. So on new years eve, I pulled her aside, and tried to kiss her. and she backed away. she told me that she doesnt want a relationship right now, and that she's been hurt very bad in her previous relationship, she's very busy with school and wants to start her own business bla bla bla...

so what should I do? she obviously have some attaction to me, or she wouldnt have gone out with me for so long, and made efforts to get to know my friends..
this is killing me!!! help!!!!!

 

[dietzcoi]

Forget about her!

You have serious oneitis and are driving down AFC lane...

She let you know she did not want a relationship WITH YOU.

Take the hint, you will survive it.

Dietzcoi

 

[Axe]

You aren't going out, you're friends. Enjoy the friendship or move on.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

Next!! She was just using you so you could take her out for free. She has no interest in you. Time to move on.

 

[Surfboard]

I pulled her aside, and tried to kiss her. and she backed away. she told me that she doesnt want a relationship right now

You did an excellent job by trying to kiss her. This is what we call the KISS TEST. This is an excellent indicator of a woman's true interest in you. Unfortunately, she failed the test.

If a woman is romantically interested in you, she will want you to kiss her. Women with low interest will either turn her head and let you kiss her on the cheek, or back away like your girl did.

You should've used the kiss test on one of the first couple of dates. You would've saved yourself a lot of wasted time.

This girl sees you nothing more than a friend. It's time for you to move on to another girl.

 

[Serpentor]

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[Serpentor]

ok.. I'm giving her one last chance tonite.

the thing that confuses me is that she insists on paying half of the time when we go out.. so its not like she's taking advantage of me... and we have a good time when we see each other.

regardless, I've decided not to sweat over it. plenty of fish in the sea.

thanks for your advice

 

[Big Pappy]

The reason she insists on paying half the time is because she does like you, as a friend. Most of us have been there, done that, and have a tear stained t-shirt to prove it.

A lot of these guys will stop talking to a girl as soon as they find out they're not going to get any booty.

Well, if looking at this lady makes you so goofy that all you can do is think about jumping her bones, than perhaps you should treat her with disdain.

Given all that you two have in common, be her friend, but the rules change a bit. She pays her own way everytime.

 

[Kraken]

I've never had trouble getting girls, but this one is driving me crazy!

That's why you're having trouble getting her.

I've "gone out" with her for about a few months, and I think I've really fallen for her.

If you've 'gone out' with her for a few months and you still don't have her comitted to some sort of exclusiveness, it either means:
a.) you were never going out with her in the first place
b.) you f*cked up

I think she's really THE ONE

Don't be an AFC please. You've got a case of one-itis here.

the problem is, every time we "go out" it has not been intimate and believe me, I've tried. So on new years eve, I pulled her aside, and tried to kiss her. and she backed away. she told me that she doesnt want a relationship right now, and that she's been hurt very bad in her previous relationship, she's very busy with school and wants to start her own business bla bla bla...

Bla bla bla indeed. You've got to face the reality here - her interest level is practically nonexistant, and your attempts throughout the month to create intimacy or raise that IL has failed. Next her. She is NOT attracted to you.