I need your guys help badly. I am dead end in my own tracks and I have nothing else to offer. My dad drinks way too much.
some background info: he used to smoke alot, until he got a heart attack and a bypass surgery, then he quit smoking, but he always have drank and chewed tabacco, I tried every possible thing that came to my mind. i talked to him, i tried getting him to do exercise maybe that would influence his health. i even fought him(argued) to a point where we were swearing to each other, hes close to his 60s so id never hit him. but he was abusive to my mom 10 years ago until my older brother gave him a black eye, since then he never laid a hand on anything. and now my brothers moved out, i took their spot. im the 'bigger' person in the family. so after end his shift, he comes home drunk 4 in the morning, swearing etc. hes the aggressive drunk type. angered very easily. Last night i guess he couldnt open the second door, didnt have access to a key so he was phoning the house and slammin the door, me and my mother opend the door and he kept swearing for 3 min. i finally snapped cuz i wanted to sleep and i had a exam 8 am 4 hours later. so i told him to stfu and go to bed. finally our conversation led into a arugment again, we started swearing to each other, "no fuk you!" "you drunk bastard" etc..
and hes soo uneducated, he would counter my statements "no you're drunk," "no you drink everyday" so i tried 'scaring' him. i grabbed his colar and kinda said in a yelling voice forced into a wishper "you ever ****ing come home drunk again i swear you wont ever ****ing find me or mom again, you ****ing remember this"
that didnt work either as he wasnt 100percent sober.
so i dont know what to do, this has been going on and on.
its a known problem through out his family, a few of his brothers are dead, one death was cuz to Alcoholism. his two other brothers drink like water.
I just wanna be here for my parents and wanna look after them, thats all, but i dont know how to approach this.
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