"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How do you all deal with depression? I am feeling real depressed right now, and I don't mean bored with life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by wavejams007
How do you all deal with depression? I am feeling real depressed right now, and I don't mean bored with life.
It depends on why you got it.

I tell what works for me, it is easy to try anway.
I usually have to replenish my energy by:
1. Taking a hot shower.
2. Eating some carbs: what works for me may not work for you, but for noodles does it. And white cholocalte.
3. Sleep just enough: not to oversleep on weekend and get up at about 7am. (not at 5am and not at 9am).

When I get a bit more energy in this maybe a bit odd way, I feel less stresses\depressed and at least have a state of mind that allows me to re-think the situation, ie. reframe it a bit.
So why did you get depressed?
 

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I am not very sure why ifeel down. I just posted in the HS section, and that could be part of the reason. Iam a senior in HS, I am basically having to prepare to say good bye possibly forever to a lot of good friends, and my school is an international school, so a lot of us wont see each other again. But dam, in a way, Ifeel like Iam acting like a ***** by writing about these stupid feelings.

But hey, it helps to get it out there.

I also have a lot of school-related pressure.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by wavejams007
I am not very sure why ifeel down. I just posted in the HS section, and that could be part of the reason. Iam a senior in HS, I am basically having to prepare to say good bye possibly forever to a lot of good friends, and my school is an international school, so a lot of us wont see each other again. But dam, in a way, Ifeel like Iam acting like a ***** by writing about these stupid feelings.

But hey, it helps to get it out there.

I also have a lot of school-related pressure.
Then, it does not look like depressing. Stress - yes. Some fear of losing what you have... some fear of unknown (maybe).

For stress you need a different approach - relaxation. Clear goals: one you define them, the more you work on them, the less stress you will feel.
 

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Originally posted by PeterNorthisawesome
Smoke some pot and listen to hippie music and u'll feel great. Or go out and exercise or watch TV.
I'm not much for drugs, I drink, and iam watching TV right now, but I can't distract my mind enough. It is 11 o clock at night where Iam, and it is not safe to go out right now to excersise.
 

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your not a ***** for feeling this way.

your a human being...and u love ur friends.

but your making a choice to better yourself...its a personal investment.

new friends will come.

and there is always email!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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frivolousz21 said:
and there is always email!
True.. but it sucks when you write out thoughtful letter to several female friends, but then they never respond. Or if they do, they took 3-4 weeks to get back to you.

Keeping in touch with friends who don't live near or have active lives is hard. Everyone's too busy with themselves to keep up their friendships.

As far as depression. I find working out and lifting heavy weights to swedish metal gets me pumped and out of my bouts with feeling depressed.

Swimming is great too. Crank up those endorphins man! :cheer:

Another thing a DJ taught me on here is to say, "I love myself" several times a day while keeping a smile on. I know it sounds lame and don't get caught speaking to yourself, but you'll naturally feel better about yourself. You're self esteem needs that boost.

It's all in your mindset, you should feel better after re-evaluating yourself
 
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resilient said:
True.. but it sucks when you write out thoughtful letter to several female friends, but then they never respond. Or if they do, they took 3-4 weeks to get back to you.

Keeping in touch with friends who don't live near or have active lives is hard. Everyone's too busy with themselves to keep up their friendships.

As far as depression. I find working out and lifting heavy weights to swedish metal gets me pumped and out of my bouts with feeling depressed.

Swimming is great too. Crank up those endorphins man! :cheer:

Another thing a DJ taught me on here is to say, "I love myself" several times a day while keeping a smile on. I know it sounds lame and don't get caught speaking to yourself, but you'll naturally feel better about yourself. You're self esteem needs that boost.

It's all in your mindset, you should feel better after re-evaluating yourself
Thanks you guys for your suggestions. Resilient, you took the words right out of my bouth. it is hard to keep in touch over email cuz they hardly write. Oh well, Igot a grip now!
 

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Just take time to think about myself. After breaking up with my last girlfriend, I lost all my confidence that I worked so hard for.
 

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depression sucks man. the only advice i can give you is start over!
that's right...start over.
the same people, the same place, it sucks.

whenever depression starts to peek it's little head into my head and i look at the symptoms and usually it's where i am at in life.

chemical imbalance my a$$. i found that one day i just woke up and looked at a map and said i'm going there and looked up some info on the spot and bang i went. it was the best time in my life when i didn't have a care.

being stuck in the same spot is boring. right now i've been in the same spot for 2 years and i'm waiting for my wife to finish school. but believe me the countdown is 1 year left of her school, then were packing up and heading to the U.S.A. it's gonna be awesome.
 

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Lost Soul- Remember the Name Pro26

Everday is the same. I wake up. I take a shower. I pack my lunch. I'm off to school. I feel really good. I meet some great women. I might get a phone # or 2, I go home, workout, study, watch tv, and before I go 2 sleep....I begin to wonder.........is LIFE WORTH IT? A couple of years ago i met this gurl (yes this is an afc story! so bare with me!!!) we became friends...somewhat. I never had feelings for this gurl until walking her home oneday she asked me, "how come u don't have a girlfriend?" i was starting to like her so i didn't answer. "maybe u haven't found the right 1 and maybe u don't want one", she said. Towards graduation she told me that she was moving to miami. Now by this time I was madly in loved with this gurl. I didn't won't 2 screw things up...so 2 speak. Graduation passed, I never seen her their or after........Until, one day at the city carnival I seen her best friend at a carnival. We chatted for a few minutes. ( I got the girls # that I liked from her friend ) That same night I called the one who moved. ( The one I liked ) We chatted for a few minutes.......That same week I got into an argument with my cousin. He told me that i should just tell her. The argument turned into something else ( i can't remember). That night i had a dream... In the dream my cousin told me, "when i die ul be sorry for what u said" Now i didn't think much of the dream at the time, so I figure F him and the dream.....The next night before I called T (the gurls name starts with a T that i liked) i called her best friend from the carnival. Her friend told me that T really liked me alot and i should just tell her the truth. So I called T, and told her that I loved her. ( DON'T EVER TELL A GURL U LOVE HER! NEVER! UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! IF SHE SAYS I LOVE U, SAY ANYTHING BUT U TOO!) to T's sursprise she said, Wow I really never expected u of all people" We sat on the phone for about an hour, not saying nething. We hung up the phone, and I got a call saying my cousin got into a car accident the morning before and he died the day I called T. Me and T still haven't talked, until i found this website. www.myspace.com i noticed her face.........frozen like a ghost i still blame myself for my cousins death......I sent her an email but she won't reply.....I sent her carnival friend an email.....she won't reply.....Everyday I wake up, do the same things, but still........something is missing.....I'll get a nice paycheck, but still something is missing....I'll get good grades, phone numbers, meet hot girls.....but still something is missing. I have 2 sides. I feel good all thru out the day.....Until i think of T......and my dead cousin......Every-night when i get off the bus....
i begin 2 wonder....IS LIFE WORTH IT? I'm sick. I'm lost. I don't know who I am nor what I have become. I think the most sickest things. My friends don't remeber me. I'm like a ghost, I have no shadow. Every night I have these weird dreams....I know I need to move on.......But I'm scared....of....myself.
I have two sides, i want to die, then i don't. However, i do have a 3yr old niece. She is the reason i choose to stay alive...But then i think of my cousin's daughter, she has no father. He was killed in a car-crash. Y is it that the good people die, and the bad one's stay alive? I know i'm sick. I want to do my very best in everything i do. But then i wonder.....Is it worth it?
The pain, the struggle, the choice....To live or die? my 20th birthday is around the corner. (4/3/86) the day i was born.......will it be the day i die?
I need help........plz.....help.......me.

LOST SOUL26 :^ (
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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pro26 said:
Everday is the same. I wake up. I take a shower. I pack my lunch. I'm off to school. I feel really good. I meet some great women. I might get a phone # or 2, I go home, workout, study, watch tv, and before I go 2 sleep....I begin to wonder.........is LIFE WORTH IT? A couple of years ago i met this gurl (yes this is an afc story! so bare with me!!!) we became friends...somewhat. I never had feelings for this gurl until walking her home oneday she asked me, "how come u don't have a girlfriend?" i was starting to like her so i didn't answer. "maybe u haven't found the right 1 and maybe u don't want one", she said. Towards graduation she told me that she was moving to miami. Now by this time I was madly in loved with this gurl. I didn't won't 2 screw things up...so 2 speak. Graduation passed, I never seen her their or after........Until, one day at the city carnival I seen her best friend at a carnival. We chatted for a few minutes. ( I got the girls # that I liked from her friend ) That same night I called the one who moved. ( The one I liked ) We chatted for a few minutes.......That same week I got into an argument with my cousin. He told me that i should just tell her. The argument turned into something else ( i can't remember). That night i had a dream... In the dream my cousin told me, "when i die ul be sorry for what u said" Now i didn't think much of the dream at the time, so I figure F him and the dream.....The next night before I called T (the gurls name starts with a T that i liked) i called her best friend from the carnival. Her friend told me that T really liked me alot and i should just tell her the truth. So I called T, and told her that I loved her. ( DON'T EVER TELL A GURL U LOVE HER! NEVER! UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! IF SHE SAYS I LOVE U, SAY ANYTHING BUT U TOO!) to T's sursprise she said, Wow I really never expected u of all people" We sat on the phone for about an hour, not saying nething. We hung up the phone, and I got a call saying my cousin got into a car accident the morning before and he died the day I called T. Me and T still haven't talked, until i found this website. www.myspace.com i noticed her face.........frozen like a ghost i still blame myself for my cousins death......I sent her an email but she won't reply.....I sent her carnival friend an email.....she won't reply.....Everyday I wake up, do the same things, but still........something is missing.....I'll get a nice paycheck, but still something is missing....I'll get good grades, phone numbers, meet hot girls.....but still something is missing. I have 2 sides. I feel good all thru out the day.....Until i think of T......and my dead cousin......Every-night when i get off the bus....
i begin 2 wonder....IS LIFE WORTH IT? I'm sick. I'm lost. I don't know who I am nor what I have become. I think the most sickest things. My friends don't remeber me. I'm like a ghost, I have no shadow. Every night I have these weird dreams....I know I need to move on.......But I'm scared....of....myself.
I have two sides, i want to die, then i don't. However, i do have a 3yr old niece. She is the reason i choose to stay alive...But then i think of my cousin's daughter, she has no father. He was killed in a car-crash. Y is it that the good people die, and the bad one's stay alive? I know i'm sick. I want to do my very best in everything i do. But then i wonder.....Is it worth it?
The pain, the struggle, the choice....To live or die? my 20th birthday is around the corner. (4/3/86) the day i was born.......will it be the day i die?
I need help........plz.....help.......me.

LOST SOUL26 :^ (
don't really know what to say. If you are Christian, pray to God for help and try and find a good counseler no matter what you beleive in. don't do anything stupid.
 
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