wavejams007
Master Don Juan
How do you all deal with depression? I am feeling real depressed right now, and I don't mean bored with life.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It depends on why you got it.Originally posted by wavejams007
How do you all deal with depression? I am feeling real depressed right now, and I don't mean bored with life.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Then, it does not look like depressing. Stress - yes. Some fear of losing what you have... some fear of unknown (maybe).Originally posted by wavejams007
I am not very sure why ifeel down. I just posted in the HS section, and that could be part of the reason. Iam a senior in HS, I am basically having to prepare to say good bye possibly forever to a lot of good friends, and my school is an international school, so a lot of us wont see each other again. But dam, in a way, Ifeel like Iam acting like a ***** by writing about these stupid feelings.
But hey, it helps to get it out there.
I also have a lot of school-related pressure.
I'm not much for drugs, I drink, and iam watching TV right now, but I can't distract my mind enough. It is 11 o clock at night where Iam, and it is not safe to go out right now to excersise.Originally posted by PeterNorthisawesome
Smoke some pot and listen to hippie music and u'll feel great. Or go out and exercise or watch TV.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
True.. but it sucks when you write out thoughtful letter to several female friends, but then they never respond. Or if they do, they took 3-4 weeks to get back to you.frivolousz21 said:and there is always email!
Thanks you guys for your suggestions. Resilient, you took the words right out of my bouth. it is hard to keep in touch over email cuz they hardly write. Oh well, Igot a grip now!resilient said:True.. but it sucks when you write out thoughtful letter to several female friends, but then they never respond. Or if they do, they took 3-4 weeks to get back to you.
Keeping in touch with friends who don't live near or have active lives is hard. Everyone's too busy with themselves to keep up their friendships.
As far as depression. I find working out and lifting heavy weights to swedish metal gets me pumped and out of my bouts with feeling depressed.
Swimming is great too. Crank up those endorphins man! :cheer:
Another thing a DJ taught me on here is to say, "I love myself" several times a day while keeping a smile on. I know it sounds lame and don't get caught speaking to yourself, but you'll naturally feel better about yourself. You're self esteem needs that boost.
It's all in your mindset, you should feel better after re-evaluating yourself
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
don't really know what to say. If you are Christian, pray to God for help and try and find a good counseler no matter what you beleive in. don't do anything stupid.pro26 said:Everday is the same. I wake up. I take a shower. I pack my lunch. I'm off to school. I feel really good. I meet some great women. I might get a phone # or 2, I go home, workout, study, watch tv, and before I go 2 sleep....I begin to wonder.........is LIFE WORTH IT? A couple of years ago i met this gurl (yes this is an afc story! so bare with me!!!) we became friends...somewhat. I never had feelings for this gurl until walking her home oneday she asked me, "how come u don't have a girlfriend?" i was starting to like her so i didn't answer. "maybe u haven't found the right 1 and maybe u don't want one", she said. Towards graduation she told me that she was moving to miami. Now by this time I was madly in loved with this gurl. I didn't won't 2 screw things up...so 2 speak. Graduation passed, I never seen her their or after........Until, one day at the city carnival I seen her best friend at a carnival. We chatted for a few minutes. ( I got the girls # that I liked from her friend ) That same night I called the one who moved. ( The one I liked ) We chatted for a few minutes.......That same week I got into an argument with my cousin. He told me that i should just tell her. The argument turned into something else ( i can't remember). That night i had a dream... In the dream my cousin told me, "when i die ul be sorry for what u said" Now i didn't think much of the dream at the time, so I figure F him and the dream.....The next night before I called T (the gurls name starts with a T that i liked) i called her best friend from the carnival. Her friend told me that T really liked me alot and i should just tell her the truth. So I called T, and told her that I loved her. ( DON'T EVER TELL A GURL U LOVE HER! NEVER! UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! IF SHE SAYS I LOVE U, SAY ANYTHING BUT U TOO!) to T's sursprise she said, Wow I really never expected u of all people" We sat on the phone for about an hour, not saying nething. We hung up the phone, and I got a call saying my cousin got into a car accident the morning before and he died the day I called T. Me and T still haven't talked, until i found this website. www.myspace.com i noticed her face.........frozen like a ghost i still blame myself for my cousins death......I sent her an email but she won't reply.....I sent her carnival friend an email.....she won't reply.....Everyday I wake up, do the same things, but still........something is missing.....I'll get a nice paycheck, but still something is missing....I'll get good grades, phone numbers, meet hot girls.....but still something is missing. I have 2 sides. I feel good all thru out the day.....Until i think of T......and my dead cousin......Every-night when i get off the bus....
i begin 2 wonder....IS LIFE WORTH IT? I'm sick. I'm lost. I don't know who I am nor what I have become. I think the most sickest things. My friends don't remeber me. I'm like a ghost, I have no shadow. Every night I have these weird dreams....I know I need to move on.......But I'm scared....of....myself.
I have two sides, i want to die, then i don't. However, i do have a 3yr old niece. She is the reason i choose to stay alive...But then i think of my cousin's daughter, she has no father. He was killed in a car-crash. Y is it that the good people die, and the bad one's stay alive? I know i'm sick. I want to do my very best in everything i do. But then i wonder.....Is it worth it?
The pain, the struggle, the choice....To live or die? my 20th birthday is around the corner. (4/3/86) the day i was born.......will it be the day i die?
I need help........plz.....help.......me.
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