- Sep 21, 2017
- Reaction score
To give an example, I phoned her this morning (it's Christmas Day), it rang out so I left her a quick voicemail just saying 'Happy Christmas, I'm thinking about you today (she grew up an orphan and so finds Christmas very mentally difficult) and I love you'. However, 12 hours later, no response, no 'Happy Christmas' message, nothing.
Going through the inconsistencies of communication now with my GF. She's gone through a bunch of stresses the last few months and began abusing her meds. Her circumstances have improved the last few weeks but she acknowledges she needs therapy for her unresolved issues that caused her depression as well as her pill addiction. There are moments of clarity where she's emotive and communicative mixed in with unreliability and withdrawal. I'm realizing as I'm typing this, it's just reinforcing my urge to break it off with her.See in normal circumstances, I would totally agree that when a woman reduces in contact / becomes less keen to meet, that it is a loss of attraction and interest.
However, I also know from having a reasonable (if not extensive) knowledge of depression that when someone becomes depressed, they can shut themselves away, stop doing things they normally love doing and stop seeing people (friends or partners) who they would normally love to see.
So I'm struggling to tell whether the change over the past month and a half is down to a loss of attraction, or down to the depression.
I read that you broke up with her five days after Xmas. Did these phases continue? And what prompted you to decide to end it?but I know that really this is another 'hot phase' and that in 2 or 3 days time, it could be a 'cold phase' again, and that ultimately this cycle can't keep continuing.
We were talking about previous relationships and I told her I'd never date another woman on meds again after my ex had BPD/schizophrenia. The GF told me that all she takes are anti-anxiety pills, that it's not a big deal and she doesn't really need them. I took her word for it.Pretty much the same deal, she waited 3/4 months and BOOM dropped the knowledge bomb of her "skeletons in the closet".
Six months later, I find out she's addicted to those and sleeping pills and makes ****tails with them. On top of that, when she's feeling really down, she revealed she can go through a two month supply in a week. I've known her for over a decade as friends and she admitted she lied to me because our chemistry got so great that she didn't want to scare me away with the truth. Geez...