"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Depression & First Heartbreak

Atom Smasher

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OP, you were in love with an idealized, romanticised picture of who she is, not the actual person that she is.

In other words, your mind turned her into something that she never was in the first place. I think that most of us here has at one point been through something similar, multiple times. It's almost a rite of passage for a man these days.

It's just part of the learning process. Time will start to give you perspective. Leverage that time by working out and forcing yourself to socialze a little each day, even if you don't feel like it. The grief will lift sooner than you think.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SamTheHobit

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Atom Smasher said:
OP, you were in love with an idealized, romanticised picture of who she is, not the actual person that she is.

In other words, your mind turned her into something that she never was in the first place. I think that most of us here has at one point been through something similar, multiple times. It's almost a rite of passage for a man these days.

It's just part of the learning process. Time will start to give you perspective. Leverage that time by working out and forcing yourself to socialze a little each day, even if you don't feel like it. The grief will lift sooner than you think.
Great post.
 
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