"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Depressed - no motivation for career.

Mr.Fantastic

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HELP

I desperately need a career that I will be happy in. I am an English graduate, but have been out of work for about a year now following my graduation. I am 23 years old. I need a satisfying job, because I am starting to lose it!

I sit on the net and research careers, I read books on careers, I have no idea where I am going or what I want to do!!

I have just got a job working for a storage company in customer services but I know this is not a CAREER, its just a job. Thing is I have gotten to a point where I have just taken ANY job, just to be employed and gain experience. I rekon I need to stay in this job for about a year to get a good reference.

I am an INFP personality type which means I will never be happy unless I do something meaningful with my life.

I think 'holy crap - meaningful, enjoyable, and enough money to live on??' I think that I only have experience in shops - HOW DO I GET A REAL JOB???

I am going mad. It's depressing me to the point of self damage. What the hell should I do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BlackJackal

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Create a purpose for yourself, and aim your income towards that purpose.
 

Centaurion

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go to gradschool, become a lecturer/prof.
 

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Depression and lack of motivation are side effects. Love yourself, and your life - lack of that is the root problem of all the negative side effects.


It's one thing you can work but can't find what exactly you want to do. It's a completely different thing if you can't work. Some people have it worst than you.


Nobody can really tell you where you can work so you could be happy. It's your job. As an added bonus who are you to tell yourself that in 5 years you'll love your new job with same enthusiasm?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alle_Gory

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Stuntmann said:
Depression and lack of motivation are side effects.
Not necessarily. If you always feel depressed chances are its a problem itself.

If its really bad, go to the doctor and get on meds. If its medium/light then change your diet. Begin to go to the gym regularly (3x per week) or take up running. Aerobic exercise works very well to combat depression.

It also helps to use St. John's wort. Unlike medications there are no side effects to St. John's. However it does take a few months to build up in your system and take effect. Take it everyday, for as long as you can afford it.



You will have noticed that whatever negative and depressive thoughts you have will slowly begin to disappear as you begin these changes.

This will bring you out of your depression to something more normal. What you do from here is up to you.


Now what is it you like to do?

Speaking? Writing? Working with Numbers? Physical work? Then narrow it down from that.
 
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oakraiderz2

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Go to your schools career center (assuming you have one, which i think most schools do). I know at my school i can come back at talk to a career counselor within a year of graduating to take a career test or whatever. Figure out your interest and what you might be good at and try somethings out.
 

Wiesman44

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Mr.Fantastic said:
HELP

I desperately need a career that I will be happy in. I am an English graduate, but have been out of work for about a year now following my graduation. I am 23 years old. I need a satisfying job, because I am starting to lose it!

I sit on the net and research careers, I read books on careers, I have no idea where I am going or what I want to do!!

I have just got a job working for a storage company in customer services but I know this is not a CAREER, its just a job. Thing is I have gotten to a point where I have just taken ANY job, just to be employed and gain experience. I rekon I need to stay in this job for about a year to get a good reference.

I am an INFP personality type which means I will never be happy unless I do something meaningful with my life.

I think 'holy crap - meaningful, enjoyable, and enough money to live on??' I think that I only have experience in shops - HOW DO I GET A REAL JOB???

I am going mad. It's depressing me to the point of self damage. What the hell should I do?

how about law enforcement ? its a long process, but well worth it
 
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