"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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HELP

I desperately need a career that I will be happy in. I am an English graduate, but have been out of work for about a year now following my graduation. I am 23 years old. I need a satisfying job, because I am starting to lose it!

I sit on the net and research careers, I read books on careers, I have no idea where I am going or what I want to do!!

I have just got a job working for a storage company in customer services but I know this is not a CAREER, its just a job. Thing is I have gotten to a point where I have just taken ANY job, just to be employed and gain experience. I rekon I need to stay in this job for about a year to get a good reference.

I am an INFP personality type which means I will never be happy unless I do something meaningful with my life.

I think 'holy crap - meaningful, enjoyable, and enough money to live on??' I think that I only have experience in shops - HOW DO I GET A REAL JOB???

I am going mad. It's depressing me to the point of self damage. What the hell should I do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Create a purpose for yourself, and aim your income towards that purpose.
 
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go to gradschool, become a lecturer/prof.
 
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Depression and lack of motivation are side effects. Love yourself, and your life - lack of that is the root problem of all the negative side effects.


It's one thing you can work but can't find what exactly you want to do. It's a completely different thing if you can't work. Some people have it worst than you.


Nobody can really tell you where you can work so you could be happy. It's your job. As an added bonus who are you to tell yourself that in 5 years you'll love your new job with same enthusiasm?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stuntmann said:
Depression and lack of motivation are side effects.
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Not necessarily. If you always feel depressed chances are its a problem itself.

If its really bad, go to the doctor and get on meds. If its medium/light then change your diet. Begin to go to the gym regularly (3x per week) or take up running. Aerobic exercise works very well to combat depression.

It also helps to use St. John's wort. Unlike medications there are no side effects to St. John's. However it does take a few months to build up in your system and take effect. Take it everyday, for as long as you can afford it.



You will have noticed that whatever negative and depressive thoughts you have will slowly begin to disappear as you begin these changes.

This will bring you out of your depression to something more normal. What you do from here is up to you.


Now what is it you like to do?

Speaking? Writing? Working with Numbers? Physical work? Then narrow it down from that.
 
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Go to your schools career center (assuming you have one, which i think most schools do). I know at my school i can come back at talk to a career counselor within a year of graduating to take a career test or whatever. Figure out your interest and what you might be good at and try somethings out.
 
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Mr.Fantastic said:
HELP

I desperately need a career that I will be happy in. I am an English graduate, but have been out of work for about a year now following my graduation. I am 23 years old. I need a satisfying job, because I am starting to lose it!

I sit on the net and research careers, I read books on careers, I have no idea where I am going or what I want to do!!

I have just got a job working for a storage company in customer services but I know this is not a CAREER, its just a job. Thing is I have gotten to a point where I have just taken ANY job, just to be employed and gain experience. I rekon I need to stay in this job for about a year to get a good reference.

I am an INFP personality type which means I will never be happy unless I do something meaningful with my life.

I think 'holy crap - meaningful, enjoyable, and enough money to live on??' I think that I only have experience in shops - HOW DO I GET A REAL JOB???

I am going mad. It's depressing me to the point of self damage. What the hell should I do?
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how about law enforcement ? its a long process, but well worth it
 
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